• tommyt posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Glad you had a good day. And it’s good you went on the field trip. Keeping your mind on something else always helps. Skipped my ga meeting tonight but the fish were biting a little after work. Hope you have another good day tomorrow

  • tommyt posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    Anyone who has struggled with compulsive gambling has been there dan, I know I have. It seems you are struggling coping with all the negative things in your life. Realize gambling might be a good place to escape everything and everyone, but once you run out of money the problems and depression and shame just come front and center. Find something…[Read more]

    • Dan replied 3 weeks ago

      Thank you for your kind and thoughtful response. Everything you said is spot on . I appreciate you 🙏

    • Dan replied 3 weeks ago

      I am trying to get out of the isolation. This morning my roommate needed to make a few deliveries for his business and asked if I would go along. I would have said no most of the time and isolated in my room but today I said ok because I do know I need to get active in order to stop the negative thoughts. It worked . It was a good day for me. 😊

      • Thats great Dan. You are stronger than you think. You can do this. When I read your post I read that you undertand the position you are in. You understand your actions habe consequences and you undertand you need to change. That my friend is what you need to bring those changes about. I believe you are capable.

      • Glad you had a good day. And it’s good you went on the field trip. Keeping your mind on something else always helps. Skipped my ga meeting tonight but the fish were biting a little after work. Hope you have another good day tomorrow

  • tommyt posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 4 days ago

    Glad you talked about triggers. I appreciate the suggestions you made too. I still never know when I will be triggered, but it certainly seems much more likely when I have money to burn. No doubt things like stress, depression, or just boredom can send me the wrong direction, but having the access to cash makes the urges to gamble inevitable.…[Read more]

  • tommyt posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 5 days ago

    Sorry you are struggling the way you are right now. I know it is hard but you’re really going to have come clean with those close to you because it’s a really important step in starting to recover. If you’re not held accountable by someone than you will almost surely find your way back to the same losses, guilt , and shame. It is a carrousel reall…[Read more]

    • Thank you all for the kind words and words of enxouragement.

      I’m planning to tell my fiance today what happened as I also believe that this is needed for recovery. This forum has been so helpful. Hope I can return the favor in the future 😊

  • tommyt posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Skinner,
    I don’t understand exactly what you are talking about. Would I use your app, maybe just to see if there is any good information that could help I suppose. But in the long run I don’t know how much this would really benefit. It’s like this site. I can read the posts and get some encouragement from the moderator or other people here but t…[Read more]

    • Hi Tommy
      I use to moderate a few meetings here each week but sadly attendance dwindle to no one showing up.
      That said if you ever want to chat / share I usually am in chat at 11 pm est.
      Ken L Your Brother In Recovery

    • @tommyt Hello Tommy,
      Thank you for your comment, maybe I didn’t make it clear enough, it is exactly the opposite of a network/platform for peer support, like the case with GamTalk and GA (Gambler Anonymous). There are plenty of those and they work well for some people, but not for all. The app I am trying to create is what you will get if you go i…[Read more]

  • tommyt posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    That’s a big first step, and I hope it has brought you some relief. It’s not easy asking for help, and I can’t tell you how much I wish I had at your age. I hope you get good support from those who care for you. One day at a time, there is a bridge between who you were and who you want to be, keep moving across it. Best wishes

  • tommyt posted a new activity comment 8 months, 1 weeks ago

    Whatever works, keep it up, stay strong. Make plans for the weekend, something different that you can enjoy and feel good about when you’ve made it through a few more days. Keep trucking

  • tommyt posted a new activity comment 8 months, 2 weeks ago

    Congrats. That’s really awesome. I’ve read a lot of your posts in the past year and really appreciate your honesty and strength. Wish I could figure things out myself, but have been pretty far down this rabbit hole lately. I have some legal issues as well but have kept my head in the sand about it. Don’t have anyone to talk to really but I find…[Read more]

  • tommyt posted a new activity comment 2 years, 4 months ago

    Keep it up. Stay strong.👍

  • tommyt posted a new activity comment 2 years, 4 months ago

    This is a good place to start and am glad your sharing and looking for support and help. Keep your head up. You still have work and your boys, and that is a good reason to turn things around. Use any resources you can for help, you and your family are worth it.

  • tommyt posted a new activity comment 2 years, 4 months ago

    Stay strong and thank you for your comments. I’ve been in a similar place lately as well. Slipped that is. Such a cruel addiction, knowing the outcome isn’t going to change, but going anyway. I just keep reminding myself of all the bad consequences afterwards, and damage to my mental health, and just get through a day, and then another. You hav…[Read more]

    • Thank you for your encouraging words we will make it together unity and sharing will get us through

    • Sharing so helps because i am one that doesnt talk about how i was gambling and a pastor said if u csnt talk about it it has become a deep problem that is why i feel safe sharing here with others that get all those feelings and emotions that went with this disease! I appreciate all of you for yr words u help so much! Thanks

      • I do understand all of the above!
        And Joyce, many don’t talk about the “gambling” due to the heavy guilt, shame, and seems stigma holds many people suffering in SILENCE back. That is why I enjoy coming here to help if I can, and it keeps me fresh, knowing where I have been. THAT helps me not become complacent while maintaining my recovery.

        I…[Read more]

  • tommyt posted a new activity comment 2 years, 4 months ago

    Sorry to hear your struggles. Keep your head up, something will come along. Looking for work really is tough sometimes. I understand. Keep your head up. Good wishes.

  • tommyt posted a new activity comment 2 years, 4 months ago

    That was very nice. Thank you for the positive message. Best to you and your family.

  • tommyt posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago

    Good job. Stay strong and keep moving foo

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