• kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 9 hours, 25 minutes ago

    AUGUST 20 Reflection for the Day

    All of the Twelve Steps ask us to go contrary to our natural inclinations and desires; they puncture, squeeze, and finally deflate our egos. When it comes to ego deflation, few Steps are harder to take than the Fifth, which suggests that we “admit to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 9 hours, 40 minutes ago

    August 19th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    Letting Go of Shame

    Shame is that dark, powerful feeling that holds us back. Yes, shame can stop us from acting inappropriately. But many of us have learned to attach shame to healthy behaviors that are in our best interest.

    In dysfunctional families, shame can be tagged to healthy behaviors such as…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 day, 21 hours ago

    August 18th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    Large streams from little fountains flow.
    —David Everett

    Somewhere nearby, no matter where we are, runs a creek. We’ve seen plenty of them, narrow and rocky. In summer it’s hardly a creek at all, but in the spring, it feeds a mighty river.

    Each of us is like that creek, a trickle contributing to s…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 days, 8 hours ago

    Opps jumped the gun and sent out the Reflection for August 19th so here
    is the one for August 18th

    AUGUST 18 Reflection for the Day
    As compulsive gamblers, self-delusion was intricately woven through almost all of what we thought and did. We became experts at convincing ourselves, when necessary, that black was white, that wrong was right, or…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 days, 8 hours ago

    AUGUST 19 Reflection for the Day
    “How does the Gamblers Anonymous Program work?” newcomers sometimes ask. The two answers I most often hear are “very well” and “slowly.” I’m appreciative of both answers, facetious as they may first sound, because my self-analyzing tends to be faulty. Sometimes I’ve failed to share my defects with the right peo…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 days, 21 hours ago

    August 17th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    Healing Thoughts

    Think healing thoughts.

    When you feel anger or resentment, ask God to help you feel it, learn from it, and then release it. Ask Him to bless those who you feel anger toward. Ask Him to bless you too.

    When you feel fear, ask Him to take it from you. When you feel misery, force gratitude.…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 3 days, 8 hours ago

    AUGUST 17 Reflection for the Day

    The Fourth Step suggests we make a searching and fearless moral and financial inventory – not an immoral inventory of ourselves. The Steps are guidelines to recovery, not whipping posts for self-flagellation. Taking my inventory doesn’t mean concentrating on my shortcomings until all the good is hidden from view.…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 3 days, 23 hours ago

    August 16th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    Rescuing Ourselves

    No one likes a martyr.

    How do we feel around martyrs? Guilty, angry, trapped, negative, and anxious to get away.

    Somehow, many of us have developed the belief that depriving ourselves, not taking care of ourselves, being a victim, and suffering needlessly will get us what we…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 4 days, 6 hours ago

    AUGUST 16 Reflection for the Day

    Inventory-taking isn’t always done in red ink. It’s a rare day when we haven’t done something right. As I uncover and face my shortcomings, my many good qualities will be revealed to me also, reminding me that they have the same reality as my faults. Even when we’ve tried hard and failed, for instance, we can…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 4 days, 23 hours ago

    August 15th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    Life does not need to mutilate itself in order to be pure.
    —Simone Weil

    How terribly complicated we choose to make life’s many questions. Should we call a friend and apologize or wait for her call? Are the children getting the kind of care they must, right now? That we “Came to believe in a power g…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 5 days, 7 hours ago

    AUGUST 15 Reflection for the Day
    It’s often said that you can’t tell a book by its cover. For many of us, our “covers” or surface records haven’t looked all that bad; it seemed at first, that making an inventory would be “a breeze.” As we proceeded, we were dismayed to discover that our “covers” were relatively blemish-free only because we’d…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 5 days, 23 hours ago

    August 14th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    The moment an individual can accept and forgive himself, even a little, is the moment in which he becomes to some degree lovable.
    —Eugene Kennedy

    If we owe a bill and pay it in full, do we return to pay that same bill over and over again? If we did, someone would surely question what was wrong with u…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 6 days, 8 hours ago

    AUGUST 14 Reflection for the Day

    Step Four enables me to see myself as I really am – my characteristics, motives, attitudes, and behaviors. I’m taught in Gamblers Anonymous to search out my mistakes resolutely. Where, for example, had I been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking, and frightened? I’m taught, also, that my deeply rooted habit of…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 6 days, 23 hours ago

    August 13th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity. People who do not experience self-love have little or no capacity to love others.
    —Nathaniel Branden

    We cannot hang on to feelings of shame and guilt a…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week ago

    AUGUST 13 Reflection for the Day
    The Gamblers Anonymous Program’s Fourth Step suggests that we make a searching and fearless moral and financial inventory of ourselves. For some of us, no challenge seems more formidable; there’s nothing more difficult than facing ourselves as we really are. We flee from one wrongdoing after another as they catch…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 1 day ago

    August 12th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    It is a terrible, an inexorable law that one cannot deny the humanity of another without diminishing one’s own: in the face of one’s victim, one sees oneself.
    —James Baldwin

    Acting totally in our self-interest is shortsighted and foolishly simple. Attacking another person or another nation reflects u…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 1 day ago

    August 12 Reflection for the Day

    Someone once inquired of a Zen master, “How do you maintain such serenity and peace?” He replied, “I never leave my place of meditation.” Although he meditated early in the morning, for the rest of the day he carried the peace of those moments with him. Being quiet, slowing down, is one of the most difficult…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 1 day ago

    August 11th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    I’d like to get away from earth awhile and then come back to it and begin again.
    —Robert Frost

    Do we think it’s weak to need a break? Do we ignore the need to recharge our batteries? Responsibility for our own lives requires us to recognize the need to restore our energy. Maybe our former escape from t…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 1 day ago

    August 11 Reflection for the Day
    When I dwell on piddling things that annoy me – they sprout resentments that grow bigger and bigger like weeds – I forget how I could be stretching my world and broadening my outlook. For me, that’s an ideal way to shrink troubles down to their real size. When somebody or something is causing me trouble, I should…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 2 days ago

    August 10th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    Letting Go of Perfection

    As I journey through recovery, more and more I learn that accepting myself and my idiosyncrasies — laughing at myself for my ways — gets me a lot further than picking on myself and trying to make myself perfect. Maybe that’s really what it’s all about — absolute loving, joyou…[Read more]

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