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lisa posted a new activity comment 1 years, 3 months ago
Thank you Diamond! The advice is very much appreciated. It’s a total mess and I let so many people in my life down. It’s terrible, I just wanted to have a good time and relax. I wish I never stepped foot into a casino. It started out as an innocent form of entertainment. Now has blossomed into something else. I feel the casinos take advantage of…[Read more]
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lisa posted an update in the group
Community 1 years, 3 months agoDoes anyone have advice for me? Should I file bankruptcy?
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Hi lisa! I don’t know your financial details but you never want to make a decision of any kind out of fear or self doubt. Take some deep breaths and let a few days pass. Make sure you feel mentally stable not “totally hopeless” before making a big move like bankruptcy. Because even though bankruptcy might seem like a way out there are stiff conse…[Read more]
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…….and I want to add that no matter what decision you make…bankruptcy or no bankruptcy….you still haven’t gotten rid of the problem that caused the whole mess which is your gambling. Debt is just a symptom of this addiction. So keep that in mind.
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Thank you Diamond! The advice is very much appreciated. It’s a total mess and I let so many people in my life down. It’s terrible, I just wanted to have a good time and relax. I wish I never stepped foot into a casino. It started out as an innocent form of entertainment. Now has blossomed into something else. I feel the casinos take advantage of…[Read more]
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I was thinking bankruptcy because my credit is already poor. It’s like I filed for bankruptcy anyway. I owe so much money including taking out payday loans.
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My experience is that a long slow payback of gambling debts is best.
Pay it off too quick the addiction will convince you to go back out.
I took my time paying off my gambling debts and kept a few bucks
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Yes kenl……I’m in the process of paying back my gambling debts and the bills serve as a good weekly reminder of all the damage my addiction has caused. Proof that it’s no longer the place I want to be. For me personally if I filed bankruptcy and had a clean slate financially at this point in my recovery I’d go back.
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lisa posted an update in the group
Community 1 years, 3 months agoThis has been a RAPID decline for me. I went months without gambling. I was doing well and felt good. It is amazing how fast gambling starts to spiral out of control. I’ve borrowed so much money. I feel totally hopeless. Why would I do this to myself.
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I completely understand the self-loathing and the feeling of “what the hell happened, I was doing better?!” I think what other people say is true, addiction is progressive, and is waiting for any opportunity to take me back gambling. I want to do it all the time, and I hate it in the same instance. I believe recovery can happen, it has to.
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Yes Sheila, I totally hate gambling. I had a wake up call and realize that I am heading for disaster if I don’t stop doing this. It’s the worst addiction and I totally hate myself for doing it. Time to get back on track and save myself as well as my family. I’m worth it.
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lisa posted an update in the group
Community 1 years, 3 months agoI really need help understanding addiction. I won enough money to help me out of my situation and I put it all back into a machine! What happens in the brain of a compulsive gambler while in action. Why are casinos around still if they destroy lives.
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I can tell you what I have learned about my addiction. I gamble when I am bored, lonely or want to feel better. I have learned my Brian wants to make me feel better so I go to gambling to get the dopamine rush to make me feel better in the moment. My brain tricks me to thinking this is fun and I will win. Then I lose and my dopamine has been over…[Read more]
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I ask myself the same question Lisa.
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Hi Lisa
Definitely this gambling addiction sucks too put it mildly.
I think you are right about after a person starts too feel better after the upset of a gambling episode . A person believes it’s okay too give it a go because it’s now under control.
I think possibly once a problem always a problem when a person has become addicted too gam…[Read more]
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Lisa how are you holding up?
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lisa posted a new activity comment 1 years, 3 months ago
Yes Serenity, a huge trigger for me is stress. I get overwhelmed with life and work and I go to the casino. I have made a HUGE mess of my life. I’m so mad because I won enough money to help me out of this hole and I put it all back into the machine and then some. I don’t understand why I would do that and if something is wrong with me.
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I was up at 3 am this morning and have been past few days because im having a hard time sleeping due to gamb.Sorry for my misspelling i meant to say i dont ever want to gamble again.We think alot alike.I also wonder if something is wrong with me.Iet my sister use my credit card this wk she charged 670$ then gave me the cash.Guess what i did with…[Read more]
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lisa posted a new activity comment 1 years, 3 months ago
Yes, I have the same problem. It’s a terrible addiction. My advice is to stay home in the first place. Every time I go I wish I stayed home. I feel like a total failure.
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lisa posted an update in the group
Community 1 years, 3 months agoI hate myself right now! How did I get myself back into a hole? I need to stay away from gambling before it’s too late. I feel hopeless to this addiction.
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Hi Lisa.I can totally understand how u feel.I have been so out of control gamb im losing hope i wont ever stop.Ive lost so much $ it makes me sick!! I hooe you are able to somehow get this undercontrol.Im Day 1 today and going to a GA mtg tonight.This is a struggle.I have 3 kids and quitting this addiction is harding than raising kids i think.Take care.
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I wrote a message too Stephann that may help you also.
One thing I wasn’t aware of until recently was triggers. What gave me the green light too gamble.
Usually or in the past I was always able too access money too gamble.
Then in the past year or two my circumstances changed some. It wasn’t as easy too access money. But when I did and usu…[Read more]-
Yes Serenity, a huge trigger for me is stress. I get overwhelmed with life and work and I go to the casino. I have made a HUGE mess of my life. I’m so mad because I won enough money to help me out of this hole and I put it all back into the machine and then some. I don’t understand why I would do that and if something is wrong with me.
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I was up at 3 am this morning and have been past few days because im having a hard time sleeping due to gamb.Sorry for my misspelling i meant to say i dont ever want to gamble again.We think alot alike.I also wonder if something is wrong with me.Iet my sister use my credit card this wk she charged 670$ then gave me the cash.Guess what i did with…[Read more]
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Hi lisa,
I understand your pain. It feels like you are destroying your life and you have no control to stop it. You do have the control. I am teaching myself to talk things one day at time. I follow the rule of three days in life. Yesterday, today and tomorrow. You learn from yesterday. Live for today and prepare for tomorrow. That is it. If you…[Read more]
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lisa posted an update in the group
Community 1 years, 3 months agoWhy do I stay away from gambling for months and then come back to it? I was doing so well then I decided to take a trip to the casino again. Same result, I ended up losing all of my money. I was up and down all night. I was even at one point and then gave it all back. I don’t understand what happens in the brain when gambling. I gave control o…[Read more]
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Hi Lisa,
I always tell people we are addicted to the high but also to the low. You need to find something else to keep you busy. This addiction is the worst. I wish you the best
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Hi Lisa
Gambling is confusing. Maybe it’s our expectations.
I think the first time I tried a slot machine it was at a casino. With a person I’m close too. He told me too try it. So I did. I put $20 in pushed the button and within a minute my $$20 was gone. That for me was harsh. Even though it was just $20. I think gambling desensitize’s a perso…[Read more]-
You explained it very well Serenity… it’s exactly what happens… and you’re right again when it’s the unknown factor of why we do what we do…
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lisa posted an update in the group
Community 1 years, 7 months agoI did it again! I don’t understand why winning money triggers gambling to continue. If I had any sense, I would’ve walked away with my winnings. Instead I gambled it all back plus more. I feel like a total failure again. I need to stay away from gambling! I thought maybe just this one time I should try and if I win then I will walk away. Didn’t…[Read more]
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Hi Lisa.Unfortunetly i can relate to you.All i no is each Day is a new chance to start over.I actually work for someone who won the top prize on Massachusetts lottery they do not no i am a compulsive Gambler.Even for this client of mine who won the lottery i can see when i go to his house the massive amount of lottery he plays from scratch tixs…[Read more]
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Hi Lisa
My experience is that there is never a big enough win for a compulsive gambler.
I think the reading on page # 11 in the GA yellow book read at meetings says it all.The Dream World of the Compulsive Gambler
This is another common characteristic of compulsive gamblers. A lot of time is spent creating images of the great and wonderful…[Read more]-
Thank you for this Ken. One day at a time Lisa
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It’s crazy because your mind doesn’t care about the winnings. Your thoughts feel like it’s about the winnings, but it’s your mind telling you that it feels good to anticipate and predict. Every time you do it, it sends signals that tell you to keep going. https://youtu.be/BF5SzIN63w8
Try watching this. It helped me understand why I kept going b…[Read more]-
Also. Be strong, and stay accountable. Things are hard
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Hi I’m Johnny I get it please text me 609-334-0623
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lisa posted an update in the group
Community 2 years, 1 months agoI always think that I can go to the casino and it will be a different experience. Maybe I can win and if I don’t I will just leave and only spend little bit of money. That never happens and the casino is designed to reel you in. It’s like they know who the compulsive gamblers are and will get you everytime. It’s time for change and to stop…[Read more]
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lisa posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago
Thank you Becky, this may work better with my schedule. I tend to work long hours.
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lisa posted an update in the group
Community 2 years, 2 months agoHow do you get involved with GA meetings and counselors? I called that 1-800 number and it was not helpful. Also, I want to speak to a counselor. I don’t know how to find these resources. I’m in PA.
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Hi Lisa
Glad you are reaching out.
Suggest you contact these people for counseling suggestions and I have included a link to GA in your state.
Hope this helps and if you have any more questions or need to share please feel to email me at ken.lambon@rogers.com
Ken L Grateful Recovering CGPennsylvania’s Department of Drug and Alcohol Programs h…[Read more]
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There is an international GA meeting on Sunday & Wednesday at 9PM Eastern time. The number is 267-807- 9601. Access code is 9131357. They are people all across US and Canada on the conference call
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Thank you Becky, this may work better with my schedule. I tend to work long hours.
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For finding a counselor
I have gone about this in a few ways (still in the process of nailing down the right one):
– First, if you have insurance, go to their online portal and search for “addiction,” “compulsive gambling,” “problem gambling,” etc. in your behavioral health provider directory. if you don’t have insurance, start with a google…[Read more]
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lisa posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago
I know what you are going through Jaylene. The casino knows how to suck you in. I’ve been going to the casino for weeks now chasing my losses. I am so far in the hole I don’t know if I ever can get out. I is the worst addiction ever and I too am struggling with it. I’ve taken out loans and borrowed from family. Just shameful. I work hard for my…[Read more]
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lisa posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago
I am trying to reach out to a counselor. I’m learning that this addiction is not to be played with. I am in control of everything else in my life. I don’t even like the gambling environment with all the smoke but as soon as I start playing I can’t stop. I always want to try and win my money back. I lost so much money that I needed for bills and…[Read more]
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lisa posted an update in the group
Community 2 years, 2 months agoHow can you break a gambling addition? I quit so many times and then I try again after months of being clean. I always think…this time will be different. If so many people get hurt from gambling then why does the gaming industry stay in business? I need help. Does anyone out there have any advice for me?
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Hi Lisa
I went through the same thing as you. And every time I tried to stop on my own the addiction convinced to go bac saying it would be different this time. And it never was. Until I finally gave in and admitted I was powerless over gambling and my life had become unmanageable. I found myself some counselling which focused on cognitive…[Read more]-
I am trying to reach out to a counselor. I’m learning that this addiction is not to be played with. I am in control of everything else in my life. I don’t even like the gambling environment with all the smoke but as soon as I start playing I can’t stop. I always want to try and win my money back. I lost so much money that I needed for bills and…[Read more]
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lisa posted an update in the group
Community 2 years, 2 months agoHello all! I did it again and I hate myself for it. I gambled half of my income tax. That money would help me get back on track but instead I gambled it away. I can’t seem to break this addition. I wish I never stepped foot into a casino. My life would be so different today. There is no hope and the casino has taken everything from me. They get…[Read more]
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lisa posted an update in the group
Community 2 years, 10 months agoI am in control of everything else in my life besides gambling. What causes one to become hypnotized in the casino. I keep going if I win or lose. I can’t stop. I always think I can handle it but something takes over my mind and I am not able to stop once I start.
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You can google a book called, “Addiction by Design”.
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lisa posted an update in the group
Community 2 years, 10 months agoHow do you overcome a gambling addition. What happens to the mind at the casino? It’s like I was hypnotized and I wasn’t able to stop once I started. Do you know if I am alone? Did anyone else ever experience this before?
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lisa posted an update in the group
Community 2 years, 10 months agoI stayed away from the casino for months. I went back again thinking this time would be different. I thought I could just have a few hours of fun then leave and only spend a little bit of money. I actually won money, then gave it back, got it back, then lost of all it again. I don’t understand this addiction and what happens to my mind while…[Read more]
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lisa posted an update in the group
Community 3 years, 3 months agoI am a total failure! I should know the end result of gambling. This binge was bad. I stayed out until the next day. The casino set me up and enticed me to come in. It was like hypnosis…I keep playing win or lose. It was like I lost control. Other people did not seem out of control as I did. I am embarrassed and ashamed!
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I was thinking bankruptcy because my credit is already poor. It’s like I filed for bankruptcy anyway. I owe so much money including taking out payday loans.