• yolip posted a new activity comment 1 years, 3 months ago

    Hey Cjg ! I am so happy for you! You finally did it. It is a very difficult step to recovery but a very important one. Congratulations !!

    • Hi Yolip!

      Hope youre doing better today! You really helped me to get over this first hurdle by telling me about how you opened up to your husband. Even though we don’t know each other, I do feel that sense of friendship and compassion from you and all the others in here! Let’s do this! Let’s be freed from this vice and live like God intended us to live!

  • yolip posted a new activity comment 1 years, 3 months ago

    Thank you Steve and Diamond ! Gambling has taken too much from me and I won’t let it anymore. I’ve got to stop to giving it power and take mine back. We can do this!

  • yolip posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 years, 3 months ago

    So I got a small check today and deposited it into one of my bank account via mobile app. . Then I got a call from another client and told me that she just mailed me a check. Guess what crossed my mind… yep…the casino. This morning I was just feeling awful about my gambling debts and the loved ones I hurt because of gambling. Yet with a…[Read more]

    • What a smart person! You sure did so good planning about that to help your self, get through. And you sure deserved the pat on the back. And what a good example for me thank you all the best of the next day

    • That’s so awesome Yolip your safe guards are working. And you are right we feel so bad about spending money gambling and despite that still want too gamble it defies logic.
      I’m proud of you that’s a huge win for you!
      Hugs have a great day!

  • yolip posted a new activity comment 1 years, 3 months ago

    Hi Cjg! I still can not believe how my husband can accept me despite everything I did. But I believe this experience is teaching me a lesson. To love unconditionally, to understand people are human and bound to make mistakes, to not be so quick to judge and be angry, and most importantly we are worthy of love no matter what. Before I opened up…[Read more]

  • yolip posted a new activity comment 1 years, 3 months ago

    Hi Serenity, thank you! I appreciate you for being very supportive, to me and to other members here as well. What you said is very true. We can not give what we don’t have. How can we give happiness if we are not happy? Gambling has taken away this happiness from us, and I will try my very best to not let that happen anymore. Wishing you the very…[Read more]

    • ❤️Thank you yolip your support helps me ! We generate our own emotions. A wise uncle once said that too me when I was heart broken. Those words have helped me through several circumstances.

  • yolip posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 years, 3 months ago

    How is everyone today? I woke up not feeling well and depression is taking over again. I did not want to get up from bed. I couldn’t stop thinking about my debts. I could not stop thinking about the people that I’ve let down, especially the ones that loved me and believed in me. My husband told me yesterday that he knows I am a good person and…[Read more]

    • Yolip
      Be as happy as you can be. Feeling happy isn’t going too hurt your ability too make things better financially and you being happy will be nice for the people around you.
      As you mentioned your husband said you are a good person. I find that very easy too believe from our comments back and forth you respond quite quickly your words are a…[Read more]

      • Hi Serenity, thank you! I appreciate you for being very supportive, to me and to other members here as well. What you said is very true. We can not give what we don’t have. How can we give happiness if we are not happy? Gambling has taken away this happiness from us, and I will try my very best to not let that happen anymore. Wishing you the very…[Read more]

        • ❤️Thank you yolip your support helps me ! We generate our own emotions. A wise uncle once said that too me when I was heart broken. Those words have helped me through several circumstances.

    • Hi Yolip!

      I am the same way! I wake up feeling a sense of dread and misery all while laying next to my fiancé. Nothing makes my gut churn more knowing that I’m not doing what I need to do to provide and protect her. As a man in his 30s, this is absolutely heart wrenching. I know that when I have to course to tell her about my illness that she wo…[Read more]

      • Hi Cjg! I still can not believe how my husband can accept me despite everything I did. But I believe this experience is teaching me a lesson. To love unconditionally, to understand people are human and bound to make mistakes, to not be so quick to judge and be angry, and most importantly we are worthy of love no matter what. Before I opened up…[Read more]

  • yolip posted a new activity comment 1 years, 4 months ago

    Flavorman, true, gambling takes away your interest in doing anything else, even the one you love doing before it. I’ll also try to be more consistent here and give support as much as I can. I self excluded from casinos last month and today from online sites, but the thing it is so easy to lift the ban after the first year. I guess I will take…[Read more]

  • yolip posted a new activity comment 1 years, 4 months ago

    Thank you Lindy. I have been looking for that something I will have the same “passion” as gambling. I tried furniture painting (which I used to love doing before) , yoga, zumba, and other things. Hoping that I will find one soon :). Kenl made me understand a bit about GA so I might try it soon. I’m going to work harder this time to resist…[Read more]

  • yolip posted a new activity comment 1 years, 4 months ago

    Thank you Flavorman. Whew, 3-4 million ! I’m about half of that. I agree with you, we are addicted to the numbness. We forget all pain and worries while we’re actively gambling. But then, after the high specially when losing a lot of money all the pain and worries comes back a hundredfold. The guilt and the shame in addition to that. I know a lot…[Read more]

  • yolip posted a new activity comment 1 years, 4 months ago

    I told myself the same thing, wait for that decent win and I’ll stop. Believe me, the big win came but the stopping did not. I have also just request self exclusion to the online site. I’ll work hard on excluding myself to every casino. Stay strong.

  • yolip posted a new activity comment 1 years, 4 months ago

    A New Day, it was 8 months ago when you replied and yet I managed to still continue gambling. I fell numb right now, just gamble my whole paycheck and Christmas bonus. I hope you’re doing much better than I am. Happy Holidays.

  • yolip posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 years, 4 months ago

    Soooo many Day Ones and I am getting tired, really tired. I’ll have a rock bottom, try hard to stop then once I get ahold of some money, I gamble it away and then back to another rock bottom. These rock bottoms should help motivate me to stop but I easily forget the pain from the last one. This is not the me I wanted to be. I am a different…[Read more]

    • Hi Yolip,

      I’m on Day 3 myself. I found this site and had hit rock bottom. After 22 years of non stop gambling with loses projected at roughly 3-4 million I finally had to do something about it. The high is what we look for but we are unfortunatly addicted to the numbness of when we lose also. I myself feel like I have wasted my life up to now b…[Read more]

      • Thank you Flavorman. Whew, 3-4 million ! I’m about half of that. I agree with you, we are addicted to the numbness. We forget all pain and worries while we’re actively gambling. But then, after the high specially when losing a lot of money all the pain and worries comes back a hundredfold. The guilt and the shame in addition to that. I know a lot…[Read more]

    • I can so identify how you’re feeling about yourself… that’s exactly how I felt. Not knowing who I really was… feeling like I was living a lie. You said that turning to God and GA didn’t work. I would say that likely nothing can work unless somehow you do it for yourself… Find the real you again.. When tempted take just a couple of minutes…[Read more]

      • I agree, that’s been the hardest when trying to stop. I love watching sports but my addiction went from slots and BJ to sports betting in recent years. I ruined it as I can no longer watch as a fan. The boredom is real because we need to learn to enjoy anything else and that’s the hardest part. I’m still in the get through the day phase of…[Read more]

        • Flavorman, true, gambling takes away your interest in doing anything else, even the one you love doing before it. I’ll also try to be more consistent here and give support as much as I can. I self excluded from casinos last month and today from online sites, but the thing it is so easy to lift the ban after the first year. I guess I will take…[Read more]

      • Thank you Lindy. I have been looking for that something I will have the same “passion” as gambling. I tried furniture painting (which I used to love doing before) , yoga, zumba, and other things. Hoping that I will find one soon :). Kenl made me understand a bit about GA so I might try it soon. I’m going to work harder this time to resist…[Read more]

    • I understand completely. You pretty much described my life right now.

  • yolip posted a new activity comment 1 years, 4 months ago

    This is exactly what I did too. Self excluded last month and a week later found myself gambling online. I just requested for a self exclusion from the site since I just gambled away my paycheck, Christmas bonus, my phone bill money and no idea where to get money to pay my gambling loans which are now all past due. This gambling addiction is way…[Read more]

    • I know the feeling a few weeks ago I spent so much I barley had enough money left for food. That was a first all time low for me. Possibly my rock bottom. I have no intentions of starving. Day 3 of the rest of my life. It never gets better with gambling. I feel there’s no point if it doesn’t improve my life. Thank you for your comment. I wish us well.

  • yolip posted a new activity comment 2 years ago

    30 years of this. If I saved the money all the money I gamble, I would have had a house and a much better life. Instead I have a pile of debt. If I didn’t gamble most weekends, I would have had time for family and friends. I don’t even have best friend, just gambling friends. The life of lies is wearing me down. And the worst li of them all is…[Read more]

    • I did the same, relapsed last night with my rent money. And I was up, but for some reason, I don’t walk away. I kept playing watching the machine turn colder and colder. I self excluded today. And joined this site. I am fed up with sabotaging my life.

      I am here if you need to talk. Please reach out. Not sure how this site works, but I am here…[Read more]

      • A New Day, it was 8 months ago when you replied and yet I managed to still continue gambling. I fell numb right now, just gamble my whole paycheck and Christmas bonus. I hope you’re doing much better than I am. Happy Holidays.

  • yolip posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 years ago

    I relapsed again and again and again. As if the last visit was not bad enough. Why do I keep doing this to myself?

    • I always say the same thing to myself 🙁 Why do I keep going back when I know It’s going to end badly (every single time) I hate online gambling so much. It makes gambling for addicts too accessible. I wish you the best with your recovery.

      • yolip replied 2 years ago

        30 years of this. If I saved the money all the money I gamble, I would have had a house and a much better life. Instead I have a pile of debt. If I didn’t gamble most weekends, I would have had time for family and friends. I don’t even have best friend, just gambling friends. The life of lies is wearing me down. And the worst li of them all is…[Read more]

        • I did the same, relapsed last night with my rent money. And I was up, but for some reason, I don’t walk away. I kept playing watching the machine turn colder and colder. I self excluded today. And joined this site. I am fed up with sabotaging my life.

          I am here if you need to talk. Please reach out. Not sure how this site works, but I am here…[Read more]

          • A New Day, it was 8 months ago when you replied and yet I managed to still continue gambling. I fell numb right now, just gamble my whole paycheck and Christmas bonus. I hope you’re doing much better than I am. Happy Holidays.

  • yolip posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    Thank you. The sad thing is this not the first time. I stopped for a couple of years. I managed to stop for a couple of years. I even had counseling. But as soon as everything reopened last year, I started again. I am afraid that even if I stop, it will happen again. I’m in a very dark place right now.

  • yolip posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 years, 2 months ago

    I’m going crazy thinking how I am supposed to pay all the loans I took out to sustain gambling as my income is not ennough. It was enough before these loans. I am depressed and ashamed of myself. My good husband is so disappointed in me. I just want to hide somewhere.

    • I know how overwhelming it is. I too have so many debts to pay off. There are resources for debt relief but one of the most important things is to get the support and work on your recovery. I am new to this journey and wish I could advise you more but I know there are many out there who can. You are not alone in your struggle. Keep taking one step…[Read more]

      • Thank you. The sad thing is this not the first time. I stopped for a couple of years. I managed to stop for a couple of years. I even had counseling. But as soon as everything reopened last year, I started again. I am afraid that even if I stop, it will happen again. I’m in a very dark place right now.

      • What trusted debt relief programs in the States does anyone know of?

  • yolip posted a new activity comment 3 years, 4 months ago

    Hi IA.. 20 months ago I felt exactly the same way, I gambled over $10k in 24 hrs, all my savings, negative checking account, and all credit cards maxed. I also gambled $2k of my friend’s money. I felt so ashamed and wanted to end my life. But instead of doing that I decided to do something about gambling. I self excluded from casinos and got s…[Read more]

  • yolip posted a new activity comment 5 years, 4 months ago

    Know that it will get Better and always remember that the only way to win is to stop gambling

  • yolip posted a new activity comment 5 years, 5 months ago

    By law ? Does that mean you’ll get arrested if you go and get caught? I like the idea. I for sure will be very afraid to risk it

    • I would be escorted off of the property. If they didn’t catch me playing and I won over $1200 it would be forfeited. I wouldn’t get it. Heck no I won’t go in there! I know that this was a good decision for my gambling sobriety. I have 2 more casinos where I have to self-exclude. I know that I need to not gamble with the temptation very close to my…[Read more]

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