• Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 weeks ago

    Jenny there are different stages to stopping it seems. At one point I felt as you do. Now instead of telling myself I may go back. I think why would I want to.
    This takes time and I don’t think any of the effects of abstinence can be skipped.
    I appreciate reading your thoughts and your experiences.

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 weeks ago

    Thank you Dan, you are very kind!

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 weeks ago

    A person has to remind them selves of the unrest that gambling brings.
    It sounds like you are doing well.
    I’m hanging in there also.
    I think about gambling much less now. But I still do think about it. The urges have softened to almost nothing just a thought that comes for a minute and leaves just a quickly once in awhile.
    It’s been just ove…[Read more]

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 weeks ago

    Buying scratch tickets after stopping slots.
    There’s still the excitement of a possible win.
    I had bought the odd one after stopping playing slots. I also had no luck on them I stopped with the scratch tickets right away as that wasn’t where my true addiction lyes. And I didn’t want another problem .
    it’s a dream ,a hope for some quick money.…[Read more]

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 weeks ago

    I hope you made it another day! Good for you on your one month. That takes a lot of strength!

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 weeks ago

    That’s a lot too look forward too Jenny!

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 weeks ago

    ❤️ There should be many of them.

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi Jenny
    I’m sorry you had a difficult day. I’ve been there also where I wanted to continue gambling and my card wouldn’t allow it.
    It’s a blessing in disguise.
    On the upside you were able to pay down some debt. That’s got to feel good.
    I know having a small amount of money left makes things difficult for you. I’ve been there also.
    All on its…[Read more]

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thank you Jenny 🙂

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Jenny hold the line 🙂

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi Jenny
    Growing pains. It isn’t easy for anyone who is trying to stay away from gambling. But your rewards for doing that will be ten fold.
    You probably have been doing a lot of self talk. I do that quite a bit. . Reasoning with myself sometimes isn’t easy. We just need to keep trying and be really proud that we are. Only good can come from tha…[Read more]

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi Dan you are welcome. I wish none of us ever had a gambling problem and from my years of trying to find help. Good support caring advice at times has been hard to find. And it’s needed. And it means something when it’s given.
    I’ve noticed your kind comments and really good advice along the way. Your advice and encouragement without a doubt…[Read more]

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi Frog I share your thoughts on just having to stay away. I’ve fallen into that trap many times thinking I can just handle it. And usually when I go back at first I can but I quickly slip into if I just spend some more money I’ll likely hit.
    Then when I don’t and I’ve spent all this money depression sets in for me. I literally hate myself…[Read more]

    • Serenity you truly are an amazing blessing to everyone who is here on this site. Thank you for your time and support.

      • Hi Dan you are welcome. I wish none of us ever had a gambling problem and from my years of trying to find help. Good support caring advice at times has been hard to find. And it’s needed. And it means something when it’s given.
        I’ve noticed your kind comments and really good advice along the way. Your advice and encouragement without a doubt…[Read more]

  • Serenity posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    A message from a recovery coach that I respect.

    “𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐈 𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐤 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐈 𝐝𝐨 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐚𝐲. 𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐢𝐧 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐞.” We are not responsible for other people’s emotions. And guess what? They’re not responsible for ours either.

    No longer blaming others for any of my feelings and accepting per…[Read more]

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    I know for myself when I think I can’t do something I want to even more. Then I told myself I can gamble but it’s up to me to decide I’m not going too. If that makes any sense.
    So they say urges last approximately 15 minutes then they pass. It probably varies from person to person.
    Stress can add to wanting to play even the stress of loses…[Read more]

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi Lisa
    It is scary what gambling can do to a person.
    I’m still not sure why during gambling reason goes out the door. Possibly part of it is desperation to have our money back. It’s gone but you can make more and use it to live and pay bills down.
    I’m still paying for my gambling actions. And will be for a time. But there will be a day that…[Read more]

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi Lisa
    I can identify with you. Not that long ago I had little to no control when to stop gambling. I’d win some money then lose a lot more because I’d keep playing. Like a yo-yo until the string was broken.
    The only thing at first when I knew I should stop was banning myself. Self exclusion.
    That helped a lot I had a sense of freedom and pea…[Read more]

    • I’m thinking about self exclusion. I have zero control once I start gambling. I can feel my brain chemistry changing. It’s actually quite scary. I’m in control of everything else in my life. I feel that I’m in too deep to stop. I have to recoup all the money that is lost. I get so much mail to entice me to go down there.

      • Don’t think about getting your money back you can’t just self exclude and listen to serenity’s advice. Counselling, groups and hobbies other than gambling

      • Hi Lisa
        It is scary what gambling can do to a person.
        I’m still not sure why during gambling reason goes out the door. Possibly part of it is desperation to have our money back. It’s gone but you can make more and use it to live and pay bills down.
        I’m still paying for my gambling actions. And will be for a time. But there will be a day that…[Read more]

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    If makeup is your thing that’s awesome. Looking good is feeling good. It’s best to stay in the moment as much as possible.
    Today I made an amoretto peach cheesecake it turned out really well. Tomorrow I plan to start exercising again. I’ll see how that goes. I’m due to get back into shape.
    Keep doing positive things Jenny you are doing really…[Read more]

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    They’ve gotten me like that also. Stopping is a lot of reasoning with one’s self. It’s obvious Jenny is doing that. It’s nice to have you people to chat with. For myself it’s a reinforcement of my choice to stop gambling.

  • Serenity posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Yeah Jenny that free money is to Lure you back.
    I think you mentioned you know this one 🙂
    I’m sorry it’s so difficult to stop. It was really hard for me. In 5 days I’ll have 4 months. Do I count the days? I do do I wonder what it would feel like to go back. I do.
    I checked my bank account this morning.
    I could play hard core. But they’…[Read more]

    • I know the answer is yes but I just wanted to check, maybe justify that I can play without spending any money but I know once I start I can’t stop so better not

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