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I promised my husband I would stop. I’m right there with you about being afraid.

Hi Nicolep. I totally understand. After the first time I went to my husband he helped me pay off a few things and helped me set up a budget to get myself out of the rest of my debt. A few months later I had to go to him again because I found myself in a horrible spot with payday loans. I was so worried to tell him because I knew he would be upset and disappointed. He was very kind and forgiving. He gave me a loan (we have sep bank accounts) to pay off my loans. Shortly after I paid him back I found myself once again in the online gambling cycle. I hit a breaking point that I finally was ready to give up gambling. IIt took me a while to get up the nerve to go to my husband yet again. I was worried he would be angry and would give up on me. I wrote him a letter telling him that I was in trouble again. This time though I went to him not for a bail out financially but rather to have someone help me overcome my addiction and to be my rock. I told him exactly what I needed him to do to help me. After writing the letter we went about life as usual as if I had never written a letter. Finally after a few weeks he was finally ready to talk to me about my gambling problem. His words were so kind. He told me that he loved me and would always take care of me. He said we are a team. I have been gambling free for just over 2 months and feel closer to my husband than I ever have.
You will feel so much better if you tell your husband. I am sure your husband loves you and will stick by your side to help you through this. It is hard to get up the courage but it will take away a big part of the stress if he knows. This is a tough thing to go through. Take it one day at a time.