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Kabobra
There is definitely an adjustment period when stopping an addiction. All sorts of thoughts and emotions.
You clearly care about your significant other’s feelings.
I’m not going to say too much just thinking of you. And I’m another day free as well.

Hello there yes, our significant others do feel it as well. I know for me that sometimes I want to avoid discussing it because it hurts too much to have that person told me to stop I want to, but it’s hard to have someone push me.. the best times are when they say just talk to me about it it’ll be OK. I’ve learned that rather be a part of it then be excluded. I know that I am not trusted when I’m quiet I might be trustable but what I’ve done to my partner is made them paranoid of what’s really happening. What can they believe about me? I hate being challenged because I don’t challenge others. It’s hard for me to give it and to receive it when they see some success the trust builds and that is precious.
You might consider what being aloof is all about. For me, it was the shame of my feelings about gambling and not wanting to bring the topic up so I wouldn’t get a lecture, the more I let them share and then if I can share back honestly. It gets better. I think they can except our failures when we share ourselves and trust them with our struggles I guess in a way because they trust us as we say we want to stop and in that comment that lets them know that they will be more money to enjoy life with and I think that’s all they’re looking for is honest. Hope I hope I can do that myself more and more overtime. All the best to you. I just seem to be working so hard at it.