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    Christa H posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 years, 4 months ago

    Well today is the day.. I am a compulsive gambler who has tried to stop countless times . I have stopped for 3 years, got 6 month several times but have never truly admitted to myself that I am a compulsive gambler. I am doing that right now .
    I HAVE to STOP today!!!
    My husband has no idea that I have 50,000 dollars worth of credit card debt .. and I am now 66,000 dollars in the hole
    For anyone that has or has had a similar experience.. how did you cope w the financial situation? What are anybody’s thoughts on whether I need to tell my husband if I can get a loan on my own to consolidate do I have to tell him?
    I feel like I will destroy my marriage of 13 years. I know too that he will never trust me again.. I also know that this is my fault
    I feel very hopeless at times thinking about the mountain of debt and there doesn’t seem to be a way out..,
    I have been to GA and that always helps but I live remotely and cannot get to meetings
    Any feedback would be appreciated

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      Serenity replied 1 years, 4 months ago

      Hi Christa
      There are variables part depends on your ability too pay the money back. How much you make. Telling your husband it’s hard too go it alone. I have too I have no husband. My ability to pay debt down is there but it’s going too take some time, hard work, sacrifice and doing without. Shame gambling does that too a person but it does.
      I guess telling your husband depends on your relationship. Should he trust you again. I think so and you should expect nothing less knowing you are doing your best and being honest. But in saying that. I’m not him nor you. You know best there.
      How you’ve been doing with gambling sounds a lot like how I have been doing. Fighting it returning fighting it again. What I have found for me I don’t have the desire to gamble anymore like I did. At one point I would say it was over taking my life and I just went with it.
      Not anymore and the consequences get larger.
      This is day 15 for me bet free. I have very high hopes of being done with gambling and pursuing other things that are of benefit to me instead of destruction.
      This site is helping me and hopefully it will help you also. I’m pretty some people will have some experience and be able too share how they have turned things around.
      In the meantime hugs and stay strong!

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      Pamsy replied 1 years, 4 months ago

      Prayers to you!!!! You have to tell him before it gets worse, I think