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Community 3 years, 3 months ago I have been free from gambling for 10 years, my family are forgetting the horrible life we all shared, the lies, my frequent trips out to gamble, the unpaid bills, my absolute fixation with placing a bet on everything and taking it out on everyone when I lost. Now out of the blue they all want to go to Vegas. No one is listening to my advice because apparently I am cured. I know that I am always one second away from a bad decision, and there is no such thing as one bet. They are all plaguing me to book this week, incessantly pressuring me. This is the most dangerous time in my life. If I start again, I know i will not stop.
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At the end of the day it is your responsibility to say no. If they want to go then let them but don’t go with them. It is your choice to make, you know the dangers and whilst I am horrified that your family is being so inconsiderate in this matter the only control any of us have is over our own decisions, We cannot control others or hold them respnsible for our choices. If you are in charge of the booking it is a no brainer, book for them and you stay home, or don’t book and pick somewhere else to go. The butt stops with you not them. True they are not helping but if you go and get hooked again blaming them will not change that outcome. Tell them you will book for everyone but you will not be joining them. If they are happy to go without you that would be disappointing but you would have to respect their decision. Please don’t muddy the waters, ask yourself if you want to go, if the answer is no, then you have your answer. Stay strong, you will be so fed up with yourself if you were to put yourself back into the place you were 10 years ago.
I should also add that everything in Vegas is geared around getting you to gamble, there isn’t even coffe/tea facilities in the rooms forcing you to go down to where the action is for absolutely everything. If your family tell you that there are other things to do whilst there, they are wrong, everything and I mean absolutely everything is geared to make you gamble. Please do not go.
Hi Resolve
Not sure if you are or were a member of Gamblers Anonymous but in the readings in the GA yellow book that is read at each meeting it says compulsive gambling is an illness, progressive in its nature, which can never be cured, but can be arrested. If you have that yellow maybe sit down with your family and read this to them. Hopefully they will understand. And as it says on page # 17 in the same book ” Don’t test or tempt yourself. ” Wish you well and like say remind them what life looked like 10 years ago.
Hope they will understand and will choose another place to visit.
If not tell them that you are staying home and wish them well on their trip
God Bless
Ken L YBIR
Good to bounce the idea around, yes I have attended GA meetings when I lived in the UK. The holiday is off. I spoke with my wife this morning, she is 100% inside with my decision. A trip to visit friends in Australia is in the planning instead. That is the beauty of the friendships we have on here. Full on support and care. Thanks all, I was in a pickle.