Tagged: Spouse of Gambler
November 23, 2017 at 9:01 am #5510
Just read this back. Nothing stuck, we’re still on the hamster wheel. I caved. Huge family fight with grandchildren present over his gambling at our not so Thanksgiving dinner. I found out he borrowed money from our daughter. I was angry at them both! He left. I need out!
August 29, 2017 at 10:48 am #5213
Hi ((( SKO )))
Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that you get through this.
Suggest you check these two links. Gam Anon is a 12 Program for family
and friends of CGs and Gambling Therapy is out of the UK but they have
chat and posting board for family and friends. I wish you well and hope
if you are struggling you visit our chat rooms and if you need to share
or have any questions please feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
August 29, 2017 at 1:42 am #5210
Wow what a very long journey for you.
You have done the right thing taking charge of this addiction that is the most precious gift you could give to you and your husband and kids.
He cant stop with out help,he will lie and probably even cry.scream and kick for sure .
But you are not taking control of him only the addiction,by not allowing it in your life anymore.
Stand your ground!
Your husband needs help clearly it has well past consumed his life,and yours too.
Hope things get better for you.
Im a gambler and i can honestly say if the tables were turned i dont think i could survive what i put my family through.hugs
August 29, 2017 at 1:05 am #5209
My name is Starla and I am the spouse of a gambler. For a very long time, to long, 28 years. Yes, he was a gambler when I met him. I had no idea what this meant. For the first part of our marriage I really had no idea what betting with a bookie was, or how it was affecting our lives. Wins were our highs, and we always got new things and went on trips with the winnings. However, I soon realized that loosing meant a very dark place that I hated to go to. Soon sporting events were no longer family time as they had been as I was growing up, for food and laughter. No one wanted to be around as my husband would become so enraged! I got to the point that I sat very nervous hoping for a win. It was just my luck gambling was approved for our state and soon casinos went up 45 minutes away. I said out loud my life is over as I know it. My husband laughed and said no no I wouldn’t waist my time on those low wagers. Well famous last words! It has become a 6-8 thousand a month habit. We have filed bankruptcy, lost our home, cars and he has taken cc out in our daughters name as well as a loan. We owe over 90,000 to the IRS. He makes a very good income, however we live paycheck to paycheck. We are very Blessed that we have cars to drive as he is in the business. Of course you know its my fault, he wouldn’t gamble if it weren’t for me. I won’t bore you with the reasons, and of course he can stop at anytime he wants. Yes, I’m text book, I would go with him, if you cant beat them join them. I hate it and all it is! I’ve cried, yelled, screamed, cried again, and yes thought of just checking out. This habit has ruined my life. I am 53 with nothing now. I worked had a great job, but my pay check would be gone before it hit the bank. So I just gave up. We never have money for anything and the only thing my husband enjoys is gambling. So we dont do a thing. I did in a fit of revenge buy a horse, a life long dream. but this cost has caused such turmoil, I will be selling her. It is his money and he should do with it what he wants! He works hard has all the stress. What should he do just work so I can do and have things? I have roof over my head and food, he doesn’t understand what my problem is. I didn’t leave because I didnt want my children coming from a broken home, but they did, so broken. ANd quite frankly he always said if I left he would make sure he never paid child support, so a little fear based. But Im done, Friday he did it again. And I’m done. I told him today that he either called the bank and had his name taken off the bank account and I controlled the money or not to come home. He said he cant afford an attorney until next payday, but he will quit his job before he pays me anything! Well he did come home thinking I didnt mean what I said. I told him that he could no longer disrespect me like this. That I meant what I said. I know he’s furious but it had to be done. Oh my what happens from here I dont know. But things have to change, from now till death has to be different for me! Thank you for this outlet! Just send me anything you think might help! Or just good thoughts.
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