Tagged: wife is a slots addict...HELP!!!
December 7, 2017 at 10:51 am #5580
As I read your post I would swear you were my husband. I don’t know what to tell you as I am the person you describe. I read your post and know I have a problem I love to go to casino, I hate myself after. Your wife needs to be held accountable. I say this because if my husband knew , I would stop but he doesn’t really know he thinks I stopped. I did and yesterday blew my whole check took out another loan to cover bills. I can’t bear the thought of telling him, as his disappointment would break my heart. I am so sorry for your situation however if I was held accountable I would stop. This may help you .
November 28, 2017 at 12:25 pm #5529
I hear you on the informal prayer. Prayer is powerful esp. when in gratitude. I discover this over and over. Then there is that serenity prayer which can be applied to just about anything. Great that you are reaching out . Tara
November 29, 2017 at 11:07 pm #5539
Thanks, Tara. My wife just got paid today and didn’t give me enough money for the bills. Now she’s “out at some stores” and I’m worried that she’s at the casino. She would make more than enough to cover our expenses….If it weren’t for her addiction….Feeling REALLY bad!
November 27, 2017 at 11:00 am #5521
Good Morning Hubby
I hear your pain. Suggest you see if there are Gam Anon meetings in your area and suggest if she is ready you will go to a few GA meetings with her until she is comfortable going on her but sadly all you can do is suggest and if she says no find some help for yourself. Have included a couple of links to help you understand her illness and for you to find support. And if you find a meeting and they give you literature I would leave it lying around the house where she can see and know you are getting help even if she isn’t. And never she may realize how serious her addiction is and how it is effecting loved ones.
And if you have any questions or just need to share please feel free to email me @ firstname.lastname@example.org
Ken L GRCG
Gamblers Anonymous http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/ga/
Gam Anon https://www.gam-anon.org/
Info about Compulsive Gambling http://www.problemgambling.ca/gambling-help/support-for-families/default.aspx
November 27, 2017 at 1:28 pm #5523
Ken, thank you! Went to one “open” meeting nearby, but it was all GA folks–no spouses, etc. There are very few actual Gam-Anon meetings in my area–and they’re far away, held at times when I’m never away from home…so I’ll have to lie (which I HATE doing) when my wife asks where I’ve been. As for my wife–she’s the kind of person who NEVER admits she’s wrong or needs help. She also refuses to talk about her feelings or our relationship–so she’s a long, long way from EVER going to a meeting or even seeing a psychologist. She is very defensive, suspicious and hostile.
NONETHELESS–thanks again for your response, and…God Bless to you as well. While I’m not a religious guy in any formal sense, I’ve been doing a lot of informal praying!
November 26, 2017 at 12:33 am #5519
*Wife is a slots addict.
*She’s wasting at least $1,000 a month–maybe $2,000.00 at an Indian casino.
*She’s taking out cash advances from at least 5-6 places.
*Paid off her cash advance debts, credit card debt and pawn shop (jewelry) debt from my inheritance during the last year.
*She lies about going to the casino.
*She stays for hours on end–sometimes all night–and acts like a zombie at the casino.
*Despite her take home income of $8,300 per month–we’re always short of money.
*I’m dependent on her financially and I’m very frugal.
*Since learning just how badly her addiction has worsened in recent months, I’ve had non-stop stomach problems, anxiety 24/7, weight loss and extreme depression. She’s always angry with me.
NOWHERE TO TURN!
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