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June 8, 2017 at 8:59 pm #4769
Tom, It sounds like with all of the things you are doing you are already on the right path to giving it up. G.A. meeting are also a good place to be. When you start to attend them they recommend that you go to as many as you can I think it is the first either 30, 60 or 90 days in the program. I am pretty sure it is 30 days. And their motto is one day at a time. That has really worked for me! When you have a disease or sickness like gambling, and yes it is a mental illness. You have to work at it and it is something that you will have to deal with for the rest of your life. In my case I know that the 28 day in patient treatment program is not something that I would have been comfortable with given what I learned in G.A, based I what I just told you. That is a day by day process. The problem will still be there when you get out and come back home. In G.A. or Gam anon they should be going through the 12 steps and it should be helpful to you and help you understand your disease and lead you on a path to help you stop gambling. It would help if you also got a sponsor. Which I just read that is what you are doing so that is the right thing to do. Hopefully, your wife will understand. Also, if you choose to go to an open meeting she can go with you. She can introduce herself. But, she cannot speak during the meeting. She can only listen and offer moral support to you. Gook luck to you and stay positive! Butterfly girl!
June 8, 2017 at 1:22 pm #4761
Hello. I am looking for some advise from someone that has been through the journey that I am undertaking. I am currently over seas in NZ and will be home next week. I have 2 weeks at home and then I going back over seas until the end of August. I am fortunate enough to have time away from gambling without temptation. I think this is a great start to breaking the habit and arresting the illness. I am wondering what path to take when I get home. I have a supportive wife there that has already been going to Gam anon. I have been struggling with this for many years and have decided to put a plan in place that ensures success. I have already reached out to someone that I know that has successfully been through the gamblers anonymous program for a sponsor. I plan on going to GA meetings when I return. My wife has suggested that I should go to an in patient 28 day treatment center when I return. After only being able to be home for two weeks out of nearly 5 months the last thing I want to do is be gone again. I want to start mending things at home and I miss my wife and kids. She has not given me an ultimatum that I have to go but I think she will be disappointed if I don’t. I also do not want to lose my job because of this. I realize that your employer can not technically fire you for taking a 28 day medical leave but it would most definitely be a career stopper. I have already asked if phones or laptops are allowed at the treatment center and that would be NO! So I am really torn about what to do. If anyone has any suggestion or advise I will appreciate it very much.
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