September 11, 2017 at 10:24 am #5244
Suggest he give all his money to you and if you feel he must gamble give him a few $
But food for thought if he is a problem gambler it is an illness that is very progressive in it’s nature. That’s how I started out and in the end it progressed so far that I was about to lose my family my home my job and nearly took my life.
Take Care & Wish You Both Well.
Ken L GRCG
September 11, 2017 at 1:00 am #5239
Here’s my story. Am I a newly wed, 6 months but have been dating my husband for 4 years. I think my husband has a problem with gambling. He mostly wins big so he doesn’t think that he does. However, I have had a few discussions with him about putting a limit on how much he spends on Draft Kings. He told me he would. Until I brought it to his attention he stated that he didn’t “realize how much money he was losing in Draft Kings.” When he makes other bets, for example at casinos when we go on vacation or Derby and things like that he only spends a little but when it comes to draft kings I don’t think he sees how much money he spends. He won 6k from them before so in his mind he’s losing back money he won, which I disagree with. 4 months ago I was making my monthly payments, and logged into his account to make sure he wasn’t making any late payments, as he sometimes forgets to make payments and drives me crazy. I have since been placed in charge of making all payments so I can help him improve his credit score. When I logged into his account he had almost maxed out his new credit card on draft kings only! That infuriated me! So him and I had a big conversation on how I believed that he might have a problem. He then canceled his account. I broke down and told him, it’s ok if he keeps his account if he puts a cap on his spending and spends only like $100 a week. But since he had canceled his account, Draft kings makes you suspend the account for 6 months and so he couldn’t go back on unless he used my name and a credit card not in his name. So of course I felt bad, and decided to let him use one of my credit cards with zero balance. Well, a couple of weeks ago I went to check my credit score and saw that my score had dropped because my credit card usage was up and of course it was that credit card I let him use. There was almost 1200 dollars on it and only draft king charges on the card. So I told him, don’t you see how much money you are losing to this company? He agreed and told me he would pay the card off and stop using it. So tonight, I went to go check my bank balance, which has my old bank account plus our new joint bank account we created after getting married. You see, I kept my old bank account as I have a lot of monthly payments that automatically gets deducted from it plus direct deposit from work. So I go to check our joint account and there’s less than $200 in it! So now I’m pissed and he’s in bed sleeping for work, I’m up writing a paper for school and I want to express to him how much I am angry. I searched for a site where I can get my anger out. I now want him to completely get off draft kings, but I feel like he’s just going to hide it from me now. We are suppose to be working together to decrease our debt from the huge wedding we paid for and work on saving to buy a house. I’m working overtime to do so and I feel like he’s just blowing money on stupid shit. I know he thinks maybe he can win and make a big pay off but I WANT him to see that he’s just increasing out debt. I don’t know what to do. But I’m pretty angry and feeling resentful that I’m the only one working to decrease our debt so we can buy a house. I know that I didn’t want to become the nagging wife and I didn’t see any harm on spending a little money on something he likes to do, but the spending is really getting out of control. Please help with any suggestions.
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