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Durr posted an update in the group
Community 11 hours, 23 minutes agoHow can we remind ourselves to review quitting notes and prayers. #1 put a piece of tape or string around your finger. #2 Set an alarm on your phone. #3 Notes. #4 Put it on your (Google) calendar. #5 Have a magnet on your fridge. Put fresh notes up under the magnet weekly (Use a code if needed). In your bedroom write your goal – “Run from t…[Read more]
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jj2500 posted an update in the group
Community 4 days, 8 hours agoI am still losing money that I don’t have. I have done so much damage to my life and reputation that I am not sure if I will ever be free of this dreadful disease. Yet, I still pray for strength and forgiveness.
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Durr posted an update in the group
Community 4 days, 13 hours agoBarry Bonds smashed baseballs. He was the king of the steroid era players (allegedly). Pitchers were scared of him and he walked 232 times in 2004 including 120 intentional walks. Barry annihilated the home run record with 73.
The million-dollar question is, can we annihilate gambling? Gambling thoughts lead to ruin. Consider praying:
“If my t…[Read more]
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bbgirl posted an update in the group
Community 5 days, 13 hours agoNot sure who may be needing this message so im just putting it out there. Jehova Jira my provider. His grace is sufficient for me. This is profound for me. Even when we mess up and do stupid things. God is still our provider and his grace is sufficient for us. I had wasted all my money and knew that the rest of the month would be long until I…[Read more]
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Durr posted an update in the group
Community 1 weeks agoA lot of time should be spent working on quitting. Many people spend 25 minutes at this site. That is smart. But only a few understand that it is just as important to work on something every hour that you can. Obviously, if you are busy at work this does not apply. But if you have tons of time to think about triggers at work, taking 1 minute to…[Read more]
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Dan posted an update in the group
Community 1 weeks, 2 days agoHi everybody. I hope you are all doing well in your recovery. I’m not doing well at all. The last six months have been a perfect storm for my life. So much craziness to deal with and everything I have learned about recovery has went out the door. My gambling has taken over and I have lost the only supports I have had to keep me going in a p…[Read more]
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Anyone who has struggled with compulsive gambling has been there dan, I know I have. It seems you are struggling coping with all the negative things in your life. Realize gambling might be a good place to escape everything and everyone, but once you run out of money the problems and depression and shame just come front and center. Find something…[Read more]
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Thank you for your kind and thoughtful response. Everything you said is spot on . I appreciate you 🙏
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I am trying to get out of the isolation. This morning my roommate needed to make a few deliveries for his business and asked if I would go along. I would have said no most of the time and isolated in my room but today I said ok because I do know I need to get active in order to stop the negative thoughts. It worked . It was a good day for me. 😊
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Thats great Dan. You are stronger than you think. You can do this. When I read your post I read that you undertand the position you are in. You understand your actions habe consequences and you undertand you need to change. That my friend is what you need to bring those changes about. I believe you are capable.
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Glad you had a good day. And it’s good you went on the field trip. Keeping your mind on something else always helps. Skipped my ga meeting tonight but the fish were biting a little after work. Hope you have another good day tomorrow
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bbgirl posted an update in the group
Community 1 weeks, 3 days agoGambling is just the strangest thing. It affects your mind so deeply. When you are winning you don’t belive there is a problem. When you’ve lost your last cent you know there is. The mind shifts from moments of clarity to utter oblivion. Ones emotions are on a roller coaster which never stops. It takes a grip like no other and is as destructive…[Read more]
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It sounds like you are on the right path. Stay strong and keep these thoughts in your mind
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Thanks Dan we will all help each other. Our actions will be our own but we have a safe place to speak to others in the same situations.
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Durr posted an update in the group
Community 1 weeks, 4 days agoAdam and Eve’s poor choices caused problems. Because of eating the apple the previously fruitful ground was cursed. Now we have weeds. #2 They were banished from the garden. #3 Now we work instead of enjoying life in paradise. #4 Now there is childbirth pain. #5 They caused mankind to start life in a sinful state instead of a righteous state. #6…[Read more]
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Thank you Durr this is a great post
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Durr posted an update in the group
Community 2 weeks agoWhen a trigger hits it is wise to stop and think. What is happening and why is it happening. #2 Write down your thoughts and emotions in that situation. #3 Have a plan for fighting triggers. First, have a couple of prayers and start praying them fervantly.
Second, it is vital to get active in some way once you are triggered. Think of 3 physical…[Read more]-
Glad you talked about triggers. I appreciate the suggestions you made too. I still never know when I will be triggered, but it certainly seems much more likely when I have money to burn. No doubt things like stress, depression, or just boredom can send me the wrong direction, but having the access to cash makes the urges to gamble inevitable.…[Read more]
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Jed posted an update in the group
Community 2 weeks, 1 days agoHi, just lost a lot of money and I just want to share because i do not know who else to talk to. I played online casino. I lost then won then lost then won then lost until i emptied everything. This is very sad for me because i do not know how to tell my fiance and family. I am sick and I hope this time would be my last. I’m a degenerate gambler…[Read more]
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Hey there Jed. I’ve been there myself multiple times in the past and it sucks! Winning is never a long term thing and eventually I always lost any kind of “winnings”. The online casino is so much worse (in my opinion) because you cannot physically see your money in your hands, which makes it incredibly easy to bet enormous sums of money in one…[Read more]
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Thank you maximus. This means a lot. I plan on telling my family, but maybe when I feel more of myself. This is not the first time and I hope they’d still accept me.
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I could have written your post and I’m exactly in the position . I’ve lost thousands this week after winning big. Like you said I cannot stop until it’s all gone. I keep that shred of hope alive when I know from the past the casino always wins if you don’t walk away. The past two weeks have set us back financially so bad I feel like I’m in a nigh…[Read more]
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Jed when I lost everything , I also keep saying I’m going to stop. It never happens. We have an addiction. I’ve been trying to stop for the past 28 years. My last 3 years have been a nightmare. Only way I’m looking to quit for ever is I been looking how other people live a normal happy life, and I just got a new grand child. I’m going to quit no…[Read more]
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Sorry you are struggling the way you are right now. I know it is hard but you’re really going to have come clean with those close to you because it’s a really important step in starting to recover. If you’re not held accountable by someone than you will almost surely find your way back to the same losses, guilt , and shame. It is a carrousel reall…[Read more]
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Thank you all for the kind words and words of enxouragement.
I’m planning to tell my fiance today what happened as I also believe that this is needed for recovery. This forum has been so helpful. Hope I can return the favor in the future 😊
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Csab123 posted an update in the group
Community 2 weeks, 1 days agoNot a wink of sleep.. I feel like I’m losing my mind as well as my money and everyone else’s. I can’t believe I did it again!! I swore I wouldn’t gamble again and yesterday I lost 2 grand then lost another grand trying to get it back on online casinos.
That was all the money in the account and maxed out credit cards. Is there any way to get thr…[Read more]-
I understand. Im in exactly the same boat. Hadnt played in a while then gave in won lots and lost it all again with more. I feel so angry at myself no words can explain.
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Literally what I did! I always need to keep going for more! I’m so damn mad at myself it’s unreal! I shouldn’t be surprised but I am , I’m surprised I’m this damn thick headed and stupid! I’m ruining my life and everyone around me including my kids. It’s horrible.
I’m so
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I unfortunately know this experience all to well.. I’ve been dealing with a gambling addiction for decades. Here is what I have learned. The situation you are in can’t be changed right now. It happened and no amount of stress and beating yourself will change it. In order to start to go in a positive direction and heal from this you have to get som…[Read more]
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Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I know you are so right. I just keep thinking what’s going to happen when the bills and mortgage come in and the money is gone . I so appreciate all the feedback.. this is a lonely place . I keep thinking that no one in their right mind would throw away this much money in one night, especially someone living p…[Read more]
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1st your not alone. It’s a shitty place to be. I’m only sharing my experiences and what I’ve learned in order for me to survive. I want more for you eventually but it’s important for you to survive right now. You can start on fixing the shit later. For you and your family
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There is a way out. I was exactly the same about few months ago, and it started about 3 years ago. Today it’s not completely over but I am able to keep myself away from this. If I ever play, I also am not able to leave before losing everything, but that’s only half of the time now. For me the key is to never start and I am able to do that.…[Read more]
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Very wise advice Tracie 👍
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Yes I’m chasing my losses and going deeper in a hole. I keep thinking of the money that I owe my daughter and how I will ever pay it back. Now we have no money in our bank account and I gambled our mortgage money away. I cannot believe I did that AGAIN! We don’t have any savings left, I destroyed us financially. I can’t even claim bankr…[Read more]
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Thank you everyone for all the support . It means the world to me right now. Dan you are right. I can’t undo it .
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Acceptance is the key 😉
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Durr posted an update in the group
Community 2 weeks, 4 days agoYesterday I pushed turning from triggers. But, if 100% of our thoughts are either temptation or turning from triggers, it may be a rough battle. Some days we are restless, frustrated, wanting to go back to our destruction. So yes, start with turning from triggers and fighting triggers, but quickly transition to something like insisting on having…[Read more]
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Maximus posted an update in the group
Community 2 weeks, 6 days agoHi everyone, I just want to explain why you’ll see me post the Reflection for the Day now and then. As it is often mentioned, Ken L was a role model for many of us, especially for me as well. I remember that he always used to send me the Reflection for the Day by email, which I now realize I took for granted. My email list is not nearly as…[Read more]
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Maximus posted an update in the group
Community 2 weeks, 6 days agoMARCH 26 Reflection for the Day
I know today that getting active means trying to live the Steps of the Gamblers Anonymous Program to the best of my ability. It means striving for some degree of honesty, first with myself, then with others. It means activity directed inward, to enable me to see myself and my relationship with my Higher Power more…[Read more] -
Anonymous1410 posted an update in the group
Community 2 weeks, 6 days agoI am so thankful to God that I haven’t gambled in 5 months. I had a gambling habit of roughly $1500-$2500 a month, mostly online gambling sites, that wreaked havoc in my life. The first thing I did was permanently self exclude myself from the online casinos. It was extremely hard to do, but, I did it. It’s a sobering reminder when you try to…[Read more]
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I have just lost 3000 that I didn’t have. I’m so upset and just want to stop! I have no way to pay all my debt back. I literally didn’t sleep all night! It’s 5:15 am and I’ve been up over 24 hours. 24 hours of playing online casino and stressing and praying to win my money back. I am digging my hole so deep there’s no getting out😢
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You are smart to stop👍🏻
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Jenny posted an update in the group
Community 2 weeks, 6 days agoI have 10 minutes left to do nothing on my break instead of gambling I wanted to see what was going on in gamtalk it helps me appreciate the fact that I’m not gambling.
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frog2255 posted an update in the group
Community 3 weeks agoThe urge to go to the casino is overpowering. Why do I think that I would actually leave the casino with some of their money. The addicted gamblers mind!!!!
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In a perfect world the money is just sitting there waiting for us.
I wish it was.
Like the saying goes gambling is only a problem if you are losing lol
Problem is we somehow get it in our head that we will win, we are due
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Do you find the more you think about not gambling the more you want to?
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This is a great observation Jenny. I have learned that the best way to deal with this is to stay busy with positive and fulfilling activities. If you are concentrating on positive things and activities the thoughts of gambling or not gambling diminish tremendously. Both of the thoughts of not gambling or gambling are are the same in my opinion.…[Read more]
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Nice thanks for the comment Dan. That’s good advice.
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You are very welcome Jenny
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Durr posted an update in the group
Community 3 weeks agoSpiritual Ideas
Chess players who attack, win more often. Chess players who react, lose more often. In fighting gambling, always attack. Always pray:“Father, help me to turn from triggers, and help me to love others.”
Start praying before you go out, before you turn on the TV, before you go to a tempting place, and before you come home from…[Read more]
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stephann posted an update in the group
Community 3 weeks, 1 days agoHi.I need some advice on what to do here.I have a major gamb prob i can admit that been to many GA mtgs and never stick it out.The amount of $ ive blown is just insane.Taking out cc withdrawels cashing checks to the point ive over drawn this wkend spent my entire paycheck this wk and borrowed $ from my Dad.Im in a mess right now.I have my own…[Read more]
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I’d say therapy might help
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Stephann this is exactly my life with my parents. Unbelievable
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Maybe family counselling would help. If you are able to get your family to go.
Gambling I think in part is because of the dissatisfaction of something in our lives. And to stay away a person needs to create a new way of life in a sense.
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That’s great advice Serenity.
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Thank you Jenny!!
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You’re not alone.. I swore I was stopping. Promised my family and this week I’ve lost so much money . Was up all night trying to win it back and I only lost more. I’m in Hell and I don’t know how to get out:( I’ve borrowed from everyone and took a cash advance on all my credit cards plus my husbands . How will this get paid back, I’ll never know.…[Read more]
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Serenity posted an update in the group
Community 3 weeks, 2 days agoI found a long article online which I feel was good to read.
I found it easy to identify with this person and they are a good writer.
Andy Bellatti MS, RD
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On my Facebook profile, there’s a photo — posted on July 16, 2017 at 6:59 AM — of a stunning sunrise with the following caption: “Waking…[Read more]
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Thank you for sharing that story Serenity
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You are welcome
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I can relate so well with this. Thank you Serenity for sharing this because it’s important for so many of us to hear stories we can relate to. We are not alone in our struggles and our experiences
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Hi Dan I related well with this also. You are welcome!
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