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Jed posted an update in the group
Community 3 weeks, 3 days agoHi, just lost a lot of money and I just want to share because i do not know who else to talk to. I played online casino. I lost then won then lost then won then lost until i emptied everything. This is very sad for me because i do not know how to tell my fiance and family. I am sick and I hope this time would be my last. I’m a degenerate gambler…[Read more]
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Csab123 posted an update in the group
Community 3 weeks, 3 days agoNot a wink of sleep.. I feel like I’m losing my mind as well as my money and everyone else’s. I can’t believe I did it again!! I swore I wouldn’t gamble again and yesterday I lost 2 grand then lost another grand trying to get it back on online casinos.
That was all the money in the account and maxed out credit cards. Is there any way to get thr…[Read more]-
I understand. Im in exactly the same boat. Hadnt played in a while then gave in won lots and lost it all again with more. I feel so angry at myself no words can explain.
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Literally what I did! I always need to keep going for more! I’m so damn mad at myself it’s unreal! I shouldn’t be surprised but I am , I’m surprised I’m this damn thick headed and stupid! I’m ruining my life and everyone around me including my kids. It’s horrible.
I’m so
Sorry you are dealing with the same. I don’t want anyone to feel this low ..…[Read more]-
I unfortunately know this experience all to well.. I’ve been dealing with a gambling addiction for decades. Here is what I have learned. The situation you are in can’t be changed right now. It happened and no amount of stress and beating yourself will change it. In order to start to go in a positive direction and heal from this you have to get som…[Read more]
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Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I know you are so right. I just keep thinking what’s going to happen when the bills and mortgage come in and the money is gone . I so appreciate all the feedback.. this is a lonely place . I keep thinking that no one in their right mind would throw away this much money in one night, especially someone living p…[Read more]
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1st your not alone. It’s a shitty place to be. I’m only sharing my experiences and what I’ve learned in order for me to survive. I want more for you eventually but it’s important for you to survive right now. You can start on fixing the shit later. For you and your family
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There is a way out. I was exactly the same about few months ago, and it started about 3 years ago. Today it’s not completely over but I am able to keep myself away from this. If I ever play, I also am not able to leave before losing everything, but that’s only half of the time now. For me the key is to never start and I am able to do that.…[Read more]
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Very wise advice Tracie 👍
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Yes I’m chasing my losses and going deeper in a hole. I keep thinking of the money that I owe my daughter and how I will ever pay it back. Now we have no money in our bank account and I gambled our mortgage money away. I cannot believe I did that AGAIN! We don’t have any savings left, I destroyed us financially. I can’t even claim bankr…[Read more]
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Thank you everyone for all the support . It means the world to me right now. Dan you are right. I can’t undo it .
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Acceptance is the key 😉
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Durr posted an update in the group
Community 3 weeks, 6 days agoYesterday I pushed turning from triggers. But, if 100% of our thoughts are either temptation or turning from triggers, it may be a rough battle. Some days we are restless, frustrated, wanting to go back to our destruction. So yes, start with turning from triggers and fighting triggers, but quickly transition to something like insisting on having…[Read more]
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Maximus posted an update in the group
Community 4 weeks, 1 days agoHi everyone, I just want to explain why you’ll see me post the Reflection for the Day now and then. As it is often mentioned, Ken L was a role model for many of us, especially for me as well. I remember that he always used to send me the Reflection for the Day by email, which I now realize I took for granted. My email list is not nearly as…[Read more]
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Maximus posted an update in the group
Community 4 weeks, 1 days agoMARCH 26 Reflection for the Day
I know today that getting active means trying to live the Steps of the Gamblers Anonymous Program to the best of my ability. It means striving for some degree of honesty, first with myself, then with others. It means activity directed inward, to enable me to see myself and my relationship with my Higher Power more…[Read more] -
Anonymous1410 posted an update in the group
Community 4 weeks, 1 days agoI am so thankful to God that I haven’t gambled in 5 months. I had a gambling habit of roughly $1500-$2500 a month, mostly online gambling sites, that wreaked havoc in my life. The first thing I did was permanently self exclude myself from the online casinos. It was extremely hard to do, but, I did it. It’s a sobering reminder when you try to…[Read more]
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I have just lost 3000 that I didn’t have. I’m so upset and just want to stop! I have no way to pay all my debt back. I literally didn’t sleep all night! It’s 5:15 am and I’ve been up over 24 hours. 24 hours of playing online casino and stressing and praying to win my money back. I am digging my hole so deep there’s no getting out😢
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You are smart to stop👍🏻
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Congratulations on your 5+ months of no gambling. That is awesome. Your post gives me so much hope. The Most High has set your mind free from the obsession to gamble!!! What a blessing. God has set me free personally from other addictions I carried for many years as well. I am currently believing in Faith that in God’s perfect time and will I t…[Read more]
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Jenny posted an update in the group
Community 4 weeks, 1 days agoI have 10 minutes left to do nothing on my break instead of gambling I wanted to see what was going on in gamtalk it helps me appreciate the fact that I’m not gambling.
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frog2255 posted an update in the group
Community 1 months agoThe urge to go to the casino is overpowering. Why do I think that I would actually leave the casino with some of their money. The addicted gamblers mind!!!!
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In a perfect world the money is just sitting there waiting for us.
I wish it was.
Like the saying goes gambling is only a problem if you are losing lol
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Do you find the more you think about not gambling the more you want to?
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This is a great observation Jenny. I have learned that the best way to deal with this is to stay busy with positive and fulfilling activities. If you are concentrating on positive things and activities the thoughts of gambling or not gambling diminish tremendously. Both of the thoughts of not gambling or gambling are are the same in my opinion.…[Read more]
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Nice thanks for the comment Dan. That’s good advice.
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You are very welcome Jenny
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Durr posted an update in the group
Community 1 months agoSpiritual Ideas
Chess players who attack, win more often. Chess players who react, lose more often. In fighting gambling, always attack. Always pray:“Father, help me to turn from triggers, and help me to love others.”
Start praying before you go out, before you turn on the TV, before you go to a tempting place, and before you come home from…[Read more]
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stephann posted an update in the group
Community 1 months agoHi.I need some advice on what to do here.I have a major gamb prob i can admit that been to many GA mtgs and never stick it out.The amount of $ ive blown is just insane.Taking out cc withdrawels cashing checks to the point ive over drawn this wkend spent my entire paycheck this wk and borrowed $ from my Dad.Im in a mess right now.I have my own…[Read more]
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I’d say therapy might help
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Stephann this is exactly my life with my parents. Unbelievable
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Maybe family counselling would help. If you are able to get your family to go.
Gambling I think in part is because of the dissatisfaction of something in our lives. And to stay away a person needs to create a new way of life in a sense.
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That’s great advice Serenity.
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Thank you Jenny!!
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You’re not alone.. I swore I was stopping. Promised my family and this week I’ve lost so much money . Was up all night trying to win it back and I only lost more. I’m in Hell and I don’t know how to get out:( I’ve borrowed from everyone and took a cash advance on all my credit cards plus my husbands . How will this get paid back, I’ll never know.…[Read more]
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Serenity posted an update in the group
Community 1 months agoI found a long article online which I feel was good to read.
I found it easy to identify with this person and they are a good writer.
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On my Facebook profile, there’s a photo — posted on July 16, 2017 at 6:59 AM — of a stunning sunrise with the following caption: “Waking…[Read more]
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Thank you for sharing that story Serenity
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You are welcome
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I can relate so well with this. Thank you Serenity for sharing this because it’s important for so many of us to hear stories we can relate to. We are not alone in our struggles and our experiences
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Hi Dan I related well with this also. You are welcome!
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Jenny posted an update in the group
Community 1 months agoI gambled 2 days ago $40 that was over my limit I said only $25/ month but I spent $40, today I wanted to gamble again but I stopped myself. I promised if I gambled it would only be $25 / month. Today I felt like gambling again but I didn’t so I cheated on my sobriety by gambling. I just tried it to see if I can set a limit on my gambling. I think…[Read more]
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I just wanted to see my game again.
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Jenny I will be the first and hopefully not the last to tell you that you do not have sobriety when it comes to being a compulsive gambler. Setting a budget number that you can gamble monthly is the farthest thing from sobriety. I have read every post you have made and while I would like to believe you have moments of clarity, the majority of…[Read more]
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Yes I admit it won’t be sobriety if I’m gambling
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I hope I didn’t offend you your message sounded like you were offended, I hope not I was just sharing my story. I guess it is offensive that I still gamble while everyone else is having a hard time quitting yet somehow manage. I will not be so offensive next time.
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I gambled but I was able to stop at $100 vs stopping till I had $0, I think I’m doing good
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Well Jenny you are to be commended for slowing down with your gambling.
You know we just can’t gamble we don’t know when to quit. Even if it’s at snail pace it can excel very quickly.
It’s a process stopping a lot of self talk. And as BT suggests getting yourself some counselling would likely benefit you also. I know I could use some counsel…[Read more]-
BT suggested I check in to an in-patient treatment center not counseling while I do hear she’s got some valid points regarding my sobriety, I don’t think I need to check in to an in-patient treatment center. It’s still early in my recovery and perhaps i shouldn’t have shared the fact that i gambled to you guys before i told my therapist but i…[Read more]
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You are doing well seeing a therapist. You have a will to stay away from gambling and that’s a good start. Good that a treatment centre helped BT. There’s options and it’s good too know them weather we chose to use them or if we need them or not.
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Yes I was kind of offended that she said I might benefit from a treatment center I don’t im that far gone.
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Durr posted an update in the group
Community 1 months agoTo think right means to think the opposite of wrong. If we are not happy with someone close to us, thinking bad about them is wrong. Thinking right is to think about contentment and love, then to pray about contentment and love.
Second, to allow anxiety or anger to rule us is wrong. To think right consider having a couple of Bible verses in your…[Read more] -
Serenity posted an update in the group
Community 1 months agoIt’s been really quiet here since Ken has passed away.
The chat with a councillor isn’t here anymore.
Maximus had a few posts as representing this site.
There are over 8000 people signed up and no help for people working with getting gambling under control.
This site is sponsored by casino owner (government).
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Yes…..I miss Ken a lot and I know his family does and so do the many people on this site.
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Was Ken a volunteer councillor
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We share in missing Ken.
I always assumed Ken was paid by this site.
I’m uncertain if he was though.
If he did give his time freely that was very generous of him. Even if he was paid he was still very generous.
Ken’s family must miss him very much.
As well the people who frequent this site.
I hope the administrator of this site is able to…[Read more]
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Durr posted an update in the group
Community 1 months, 1 weeks agoWith the 1-2 habit, we write down 1-2 key things from an article. To triple its effectiveness set an alarm to review these key items every 30 minutes. Obviously, this only works when you are more alone and can review the key things for a few minutes. But, those are the times when temptation ramps up.
Second, Galatians 5:1 ESV “For freedom Ch…[Read more]
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Serenity posted an update in the group
Community 1 months, 1 weeks agoFrom my favourite trauma recovery coach
In my quest for recovery, I stumbled upon a profound realization: my false belief; that strength meant keeping my emotions locked away – oh how wrong I was. You see, I feared rejection, criticism, and abandonment, believing they would shatter me if I dared to expose my vulnerabilities.
I reached a…[Read more]
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Durr posted an update in the group
Community 1 months, 1 weeks agoPrayers
Yesterday was bad. To fight back I prayed the following prayers back to back repeatedly:“Lord, help me to love.”
“Father, help me to be tough.”
“Father, help me to turn from sin and gambling.”
“Father, show me Your will.”
Every time I started to think about bad stuff, I started to pray these prayers again. When we fight back, pro…[Read more]
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Jenny posted an update in the group
Community 1 months, 1 weeks agoToday I’m grateful for everything I have in my life, im thankful for my mom who is more than supportive, friends who are present and work for keeping me busy. Life is good. My addiction to online gambling has stopped, but I still think of gambling, I just can’t and that’s a good thing.
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I’m feeling great full because my money went to other things besides gambling for a change. I got to pay my bills, pay for a movie and bought lunch for myself 2 days in a row
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It feels great to spend my money on other things besides gambling
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And I plan on spending my last dollars playing pool with my coworkers.
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frog2255 posted an update in the group
Community 1 months, 2 weeks agoIt is scary the power of an addiction to gambling has over a person. I was just sitting watching the news and the urge to gamble swept over me. It brings a happy feeling….. unfortunately not the depresssion that comes after going to the casino……
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A person has to remind them selves of the unrest that gambling brings.
It sounds like you are doing well.
I’m hanging in there also.
I think about gambling much less now. But I still do think about it. The urges have softened to almost nothing just a thought that comes for a minute and leaves just a quickly once in awhile.
It’s been just ove…[Read more]-
Congratulations on being bet free for over four months. You’re an amazing person and deserve to be happy.
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Thank you Dan, you are very kind!
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You’re very caring and I appreciate you. Thank you for being you 🤗
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It is scary. I’m happy you are aware of it though. Many times in my life the urge would come and I wasn’t aware enough to recognize it was even there. It was all so automatic.
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I pray all of us can stay away for good but knowing me I typically give in to my urges so never gambling seems unrealistic for me but I hope it will not ruin my life
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I’ve been told by therapists that the best way to look at it is you can gamble but you choose not to. It takes away the power of the addiction and gives you the power to decide if you want to continue gambling. Just a different way of thinking. I hope it helps
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Jenny there are different stages to stopping it seems. At one point I felt as you do. Now instead of telling myself I may go back. I think why would I want to.
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You’ll figure it out Jenny.
Sounds like you have some really good people in your life. That’s beautiful!
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Durr posted an update in the group
Community 1 months, 2 weeks agoSpiritual Ideas
The Bible says to think about things that are noble. Noble thoughts are majestic, awesome thoughts. Today we can think: God has a plan for me, or, God has a great plan for me, if I sit around thinking about problems, triggers, money… I may miss the majestic plan He has for me.
The Bible says, “For although they knew God, they d…[Read more] - Load More
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Hey there Jed. I’ve been there myself multiple times in the past and it sucks! Winning is never a long term thing and eventually I always lost any kind of “winnings”. The online casino is so much worse (in my opinion) because you cannot physically see your money in your hands, which makes it incredibly easy to bet enormous sums of money in one…[Read more]
Thank you maximus. This means a lot. I plan on telling my family, but maybe when I feel more of myself. This is not the first time and I hope they’d still accept me.
I could have written your post and I’m exactly in the position . I’ve lost thousands this week after winning big. Like you said I cannot stop until it’s all gone. I keep that shred of hope alive when I know from the past the casino always wins if you don’t walk away. The past two weeks have set us back financially so bad I feel like I’m in a nigh…[Read more]
Jed when I lost everything , I also keep saying I’m going to stop. It never happens. We have an addiction. I’ve been trying to stop for the past 28 years. My last 3 years have been a nightmare. Only way I’m looking to quit for ever is I been looking how other people live a normal happy life, and I just got a new grand child. I’m going to quit no…[Read more]
Sorry you are struggling the way you are right now. I know it is hard but you’re really going to have come clean with those close to you because it’s a really important step in starting to recover. If you’re not held accountable by someone than you will almost surely find your way back to the same losses, guilt , and shame. It is a carrousel reall…[Read more]
Thank you all for the kind words and words of enxouragement.
I’m planning to tell my fiance today what happened as I also believe that this is needed for recovery. This forum has been so helpful. Hope I can return the favor in the future 😊