• Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 1 week ago

    AUGUST 17 Reflection for the Day

    The Fourth Step suggests we make a searching and fearless moral and financial inventory – not an immoral inventory of ourselves. The Steps are guidelines to recovery, not whipping posts for self-flagellation. Taking my inventory doesn’t mean concentrating on my shortcomings until all the good is hidden from view.…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 1 week ago

    AUGUST 15 Reflection for the Day

    It’s often said that you can’t tell a book by its cover. For many of us, our “covers” or surface records haven’t looked all that bad; it seemed at first, that making an inventory would be “a breeze.” As we proceeded, we were dismayed to discover that our “covers” were relatively blemish-free only because we’d…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    AUGUST 14 Reflection for the Day

    Step Four enables me to see myself as I really am – my characteristics, motives, attitudes, and behaviors. I’m taught in Gamblers Anonymous to search out my mistakes resolutely. Where, for example, had I been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking, and frightened? I’m taught, also, that my deeply rooted habit of…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    AUGUST 13 Reflection for the Day

    The Gamblers Anonymous Program’s Fourth Step suggests that we make a searching and fearless moral and financial inventory of ourselves. For some of us, no challenge seems more formidable; there’s nothing more difficult than facing ourselves as we really are. We flee from one wrongdoing after another as they catch…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    August 12 Reflection for the Day

    Someone once inquired of a Zen master, “How do you maintain such serenity and peace?” He replied, “I never leave my place of meditation.” Although he meditated early in the morning, for the rest of the day he carried the peace of those moments with him. Being quiet, slowing down, is one of the most difficult…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    August 11 Reflection for the Day

    When I dwell on piddling things that annoy me – they sprout resentments that grow bigger and bigger like weeds – I forget how I could be stretching my world and broadening my outlook. For me, that’s an ideal way to shrink troubles down to their real size. When somebody or something is causing me trouble, I…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    AUGUST 10 Reflection for the Day

    We’ve been our own worst enemies most of our lives, and we’ve often injured ourselves seriously as a result of a “justified” resentment over a slight wrong. Doubtless there are many causes for resentment in the world, most of them providing “justification.” But we can never begin to settle all the world’s griev…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    AUGUST 9 Reflection for the Day

    On numerous occasions, I’ve found that there’s a strong connection between my fears and my resentments. If I secretly fear that I’m inadequate, for example, I’ll tend to resent deeply anybody whose actions or words expose my imagined inadequacy. But it’s usually too painful to admit that my own fears and doubts ab…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    AUGUST 8 Reflection for the Day

    As a recovering compulsive gambler, I have to remind myself that no amount of social acceptance of resentments will take the poison out of them. In a way, the problem of resentments is very much like the gambling problem. A poker game or casino is never safe for me. I’ve attended benefits for worthy causes, often i…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    AUGUST 7 Reflection for the Day

    What can we do about our resentments? Experience has shown that the best thing to do is to write them down, listing people, institutions, or principles that are objects of our anger or resentment. When I write down my resentments and then ask myself why I’m resentful, I’ve discovered that in most cases my sel…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    AUGUST 6 Reflection for the Day

    Sometimes through bitter experience and painful lessons, we learn in our fellowship with others in Gamblers Anonymous that resentment is our number one enemy. It destroys more of us than anything else. From resentment stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we’ve been not only mentally and physically ill, but s…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    AUGUST 5 Reflection for the Day

    Among the important things we learn in Gamblers Anonymous is to be good to ourselves. For so many of us, though, this is a surprisingly difficult thing to do. Some of us relish our suffering so much that we balloon each happening to enormous proportions in the reliving and telling. Self-pitiers are drawn to…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    AUGUST 4 Reflection for the Day

    One of the best ways to get out of the self-pity trap is to do some “instant bookkeeping.” For every entry of misery on the debit side of our ledger, we can surely find a blessing to mark on the credit side: the health we enjoy, the illnesses we don’t have, the friends who love us and who allow us to love them, a c…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    August 3 Reflection for the Day

    The Twelve Steps were designed specifically for people like us – as a short cut to God. The Steps are very much like strong medicine that can heal us of the sickness of despair, frustration, and self-pity. Yet we’re sometimes unwilling to use the Steps. Why? Perhaps because we have a deep-down desire for martyrdom.…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    AUGUST 2 Reflection for the Day

    When I begin to compare my life with the lives of others, I’ve begun to move toward the edge of the murky swamp of self-pity. On the other hand, if I feel that what I’m doing is right and good, I won’t be so dependent on the admiration or approval of others. Applause is well and good, but it’s not essential to my…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    AUGUST 1 Reflection for the Day

    Self-pity is one of the most miserable and consuming defects I know. Because of its interminable demands for attention and sympathy, my self-pity cuts off my communication with others, especially communication with my Higher Power. When I look at it that way, I realize that self-pity limits my spiritual progress.…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    JULY 31 Reflection for the Day

    One of the most serious consequences of the me-me-me syndrome is that we lose touch with practically everyone around us – not to mention reality itself. The essence of self-pity is total self-absorption, and it feeds on itself. Rather than ignore such an emotional state – or deny that we’re in it – we need to pull…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    JULY 30 Reflection for the Day

    When we first come to Gamblers Anonymous, the most common variety of self-pity begins: “Poor me! Why can’t I just gamble now and then, like everybody else? Why me?” Such bemoaning, if allowed to persist, is a surefire invitation for a long walk off a short pier – right back to the mess we were in before we came to…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 months ago

    July 29 Reflection for the Day

    The feeling of self-pity, which we’ve all felt at one time or another, is one of the ugliest emotions we can experience. We don’t even relish the thought of admitting to others that we’re awash in self-pity. We hate being told that it shows; we quickly argue that we’re feeling another emotion instead; we go so…[Read more]

  • Ken L posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 months ago

    July 28 Reflection for the Day

    We learn the value of meditation in the Gamblers Anonymous Program. As the beginning of the Eleventh Step suggests, we sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious with God as we understood Him. One of the great values of meditation is that it clears the mind. And as the mind becomes clearer, it…[Read more]

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