• mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 10 months ago

    Sorry about all the typos

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 10 months ago

    I used a combo of two stratergies, the first is to recognise that I have a compulsion, that I have proved to myself time and time again, that when I play, even when I win, I do not stop. The only way out of this loop is not to get into it. Accept the losses you have made to date, if you don’t you will simply keep adding to that figure and…[Read more]

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years ago

    Life coaching taught me to respect myself, appreciate that I deserved the money that I worked for and that, as a person born into this world, I have equality with all.
    Gambling is like being in a bad relationship where your partner demands all of your attention and only occasionally does something nice for you, just to keep you on the hook.
    Any…[Read more]

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years ago

    Hi Scottie, I can only speak from my own experience but one to one counselling did help a lot, not just with gambling but with my general opinion of myself. All people who self destruct have low self esteem, usually stemming from childhood, doesn’t need to be a dramatic story, I had quite a privilaged upbringing yet I still ended up with low self…[Read more]

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years ago

    Hi Scottie what country are you in? Sounds like you need help, you need support from others like here and GA. Making decisions when under the influence of anything is always going to be that much tougher because your defenses are down. I think counselling would help you get to the root source of your problems.

    • Ken L replied 3 years ago

      Hi Scottie
      Glad you are reaching out.
      If you read this and are free tonight at 10 pm est we have a meeting in the chat room.
      Usually 4 or 5 of us and after the meeting if you like some of us will share our Experience Strength and Hope and answer any questions you may have.
      Hope to see you there
      Ken L YBIR

    • From Canada. Guess it is time for counseling for both the drugs and gambling.

      • Hi Scottie, I can only speak from my own experience but one to one counselling did help a lot, not just with gambling but with my general opinion of myself. All people who self destruct have low self esteem, usually stemming from childhood, doesn’t need to be a dramatic story, I had quite a privilaged upbringing yet I still ended up with low self…[Read more]

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years ago

    When I got urges I used to ask myself ‘Where does it actually hurt?’ Try and view your urges as proof of your body healing rather than a desire that can only be extinguished by giving in to it.

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years ago

    Hi Jand,
    The pattern you are displaying suggests that you, like the rest of us, have underlying issues that prompt us into these self destructive behaviours. When I had one to one counselling it prompted me to look within myself, back to my childhood and find the core problem, which was low self esteem. An awful lot of people suffer from this and…[Read more]

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years ago

    Hi Andy T, Don’t try to ‘win’ your life back, take back control of it. Hard though it may seem you have to accept the losses, draw a line underneath them, I managed this with a six figure loss, it took some time to accept that loss 100% but now I see it as the cost of my entertainment. Once you change your mind set towards gambling things do get…[Read more]

    • AndyT replied 3 years ago

      Hi mozzie, thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience. I’m taking baby steps and working things out with my wife right now. I know I’m very lucky to have a supportive family to stay by my side at this very hard time. I’m taking back control of my life. I can and I will.

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years ago

    Hi Christy B,
    I can relate to what you are saying, my gambling spiralled out of control when I was caring for my partner for a year before he died from cancer in 2002. For me gambling was an escape, somewhere to distract me from the situation I was facing. The problem was that I felt so guilty that he was ill and I couldn’t change that, c…[Read more]

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    We have all been where you are right now, the good news is that as you lift yourself out of the ‘fog of addiction’ life does become a whole lot easier. Everything in life is as easy or as difficult as we want to make it. If you can view your urges as a sign of your healing instead of a driving force that persists, you will find your recovery mor…[Read more]

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    Hello Eva,
    Do be careful, you need to keep your mind clear and focused on your own goal, do not confuse the issue with your partner with your recovery or even worse use it as an excuse to relapse.
    The only thing we have control over is ourselves, not others. If your partner chooses to continue with his habit that is his choice and you have to…[Read more]

    • Mozzie55 thank you for pointing that out to me you’re absolutely right. I need to stay focused on me and my goals. I sat and went through my bank account and started adding up all I could physically see that went on gambling and I must say, I was truly overwhelmed especially when I got the $6000 mark and this was in 3 months time. I don’t want to…[Read more]

      • We have all been where you are right now, the good news is that as you lift yourself out of the ‘fog of addiction’ life does become a whole lot easier. Everything in life is as easy or as difficult as we want to make it. If you can view your urges as a sign of your healing instead of a driving force that persists, you will find your recovery mor…[Read more]

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    Well done Eva and stay focused on your goal. I posted a link yesterday (see below) it helped me to understand that my addiction/habit was encouraged by outside influences, they did not all come just from within me. The more I understand the easier my life…[Read more]

  • mozzie55 posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 3 years, 1 month ago

    If you click on the link below there is a short article that will answer many of the questions as to why it is so easy to get hooked on gambling. The more you understand about how gambling is geared around keeping you in the loop the better chance you have of breaking the…[Read more]

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    Hi KC,
    As you know it is 30 months since I placed my last bet but before that last bet I had a few relapses. During a relapse I actually started to analyse my play to see how much ‘fun’ I was actually having. In truth there was very little fun, wins provide a momentary buzz the rest was in the anticipation of the win. There were times when it was…[Read more]

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    Thanks KC 🙂

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    We have all been where you are, in order to change you need to change how you view what you are doing. Most gamble because they feel that they do no deserve to do well, so we self sabotage. One to one counselling and life coaching could help how you see yourself and other things. It’s never too late to make that change but you have to want to do it.

    • I agree. You have to want to quit. There is a lot of discussion that goes on with yourself in that critical decision. Why would we drink poison and slowly die when we can stop, put the poison down, and experience life.

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    Hi Anthony14, In 2015 I gambled and lost a six figure sum within 12 months, it was compensation for an injury that I now have to work with because of my stupidity, have I forgiven myself? Yes I have. At the time it seemed like so much money I couldn’t imagine losing it but bit by bit that is exactly what I did. I excluded myself from everything,…[Read more]

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    Hi Damaris, I can relate to what you are saying, I did the same, paid all of my bills then gambled what was left every time. In life I am logical about everything with the exception of gambling. In my case it was a feeling of not deserving, this is a common human problem, we can present as being capable and confident to everyone but ourselves. I…[Read more]

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    Hi Cloe123456 I used to do the same, it’s something that you meet your respobsinilities first and then gamble whats left. On my ‘journey’ I had to convince myself that I was worthy and deserved things, offloading money suggests that you may not value yourself as much as you should. I changed my mindset by reading self improvement books which gave…[Read more]

  • mozzie55 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    Hi Melinda,
    Try not to over think things and take it one step at a time. The more steps you progress through the easier it gets. I found that coming clean with everyone was a great release because a lot of my drive was created in trying to cover up my tracks, being honest with myself and others gave me the freedom to make different and better choices.

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