• Serenity posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 months, 1 weeks ago

    From my favourite trauma recovery coach

    In my quest for recovery, I stumbled upon a profound realization: my false belief; that strength meant keeping my emotions locked away – oh how wrong I was. You see, I feared rejection, criticism, and abandonment, believing they would shatter me if I dared to expose my vulnerabilities.

    I reached a pivotal moment where I had to confront this uncomfortable truth or live in misery, self-medicating the feelings away: I needed to embrace vulnerability to find my freedom. It was a daunting prospect, but I knew it was essential not only for my well-being but to save my life.

    Armed with this insight, I began opening up to a select few who showed compassion and understanding, free from judgment. Through this courageous act of self-disclosure, I experienced a profound shift. I realized that vulnerability is not a weakness but a testament to inner strength and self-love. As I allowed myself to be seen in my entirety, the burden of toxic shame gradually dissipated.

    BrenĂ© Brown’s words resonated deeply: “Vulnerability is not oversharing; it’s sharing with those who have earned the right to hear our stories.”

    In a society that often celebrates toughness, I’ve come to appreciate the beauty in vulnerability. The individuals I admire most are those who bravely confront their weaknesses, refusing to be defined by them.

    It takes immense courage to acknowledge our struggles, fears, and insecurities to ourselves and others. These moments of vulnerability are not displays of frailty but demonstrations of profound resilience. They signify a willingness to confront the raw truth of our humanity and grow from it.

    I’ve learned that true strength lies in compassion, empathy, and self-understanding. It’s about embracing our imperfections without judgment and using them as catalysts for growth.

    As the Tao Te Ching teaches us, softness can overcome hardness, and weakness can triumph over strength. In yielding and adapting, we discover a power that transcends brute force.

    With sincere gratitude,
    Paul Noiles