May 25th Hazelden Thought for the Day
Do we really know anybody? Who does not wear one face to hide another?
A woman in her fifties watched her mother in her eighties struggle against the wrinkles in her face and neck, trying to hide them, pretend they weren’t there. She wanted her mother to accept that she was getting older b…[Read more]
MAY 25 Reflection for the Day
When we’re new in Gamblers Anonymous, we’re novices at reaching out for friendship – or even accepting it when it’s offered. Sometimes we’re not quite sure how to do it or, indeed, whether it will actually work. Gradually, however, we become restored; we become teachable. We learn, for example, as Moliere wrote, “The…[Read more]
May 24th Hazelden Thought for the Day
Edith Bunker: I was just thinking. In all the years we been married, you never once said you was sorry.
Archie Bunker: Edith, I’ll gladly say that I’m sorry – if I ever do anything wrong.
We can laugh at Archie because we see a part of ourselves in him. We have lived in a cloud of denial, b…[Read more]
MAY 24 Reflection for the Day
Getting over years of suspicion and other self-protective mechanisms can hardly be an overnight process. We’ve become thoroughly conditioned to feeling and acting misunderstood and unloved – whether we really were or not. Some of us may need time and practice to break out of our shell and the seemingly comfortable…[Read more]
“I have a gambling problem.” “I have a problem when I gamble.” “I have problems even if I don’t gamble” “My problems are many times worsened when I gamble.” “I have (am learning odaat) tools , resources and healthy coping skills to deal with life’s problems.”
May 23rd Hazelden Thought of the Day
The prayer of the chicken hawk does not get him the chicken.
Imagine flying high over the grassy plains searching with piercing eyes for dinner down below. The sun is warm on our backs as we catch the heated updrafts and rest, always watching, always praying, that dinner will be provided f…[Read more]
MAY 23 Reflection for the Day
When newcomers to Gamblers Anonymous experience the first startling feeling that they’re truly among friends, they also wonder – with almost a sense of terror – if the feeling is real. Will it last? Those of us who’ve been in the Program a few years can assure any newcomer at a meeting that it is very real indeed,…[Read more]
May 222nd Hazelden Thought for the Day
The change of one simple behavior can affect other behaviors and thus change many things.
Our behavior tells others and ourselves, who we are. Frequently, we find ourselves behaving in ways that keep us stuck or embarrass us. Or we may feel deep shame for our behavior in a certain instance. O…[Read more]
MAY 22 Reflection for the Day
When I first listened to people in Gamblers Anonymous talking freely and honestly about themselves, I was stunned. Their stories of their own gambling escapades, of their own secret fears, and of their own gnawing loneliness were literally mind-blowing for me. I discovered – and hardly dared believe it at first -…[Read more]
CODA or codependents anon. can be a recovery enhancing add on to compulsive gamblers. More often than not codependency is intertwined with other addictions.
May 21st Hazelden Thought for the Day
Getting Needs Met
I want to change careers . . . I need a friend . . .I’m ready to be in a relationship . . .
Regularly, we become aware of new needs. We may need to change our behavior with our children. We may need a new couch, love and nurturing, a dollar, or help.
Do not be afraid to recognize a want…[Read more]
MAY 21 Reflection for the Day
“The language of friendship is not words, but meanings,”wrote Thoreau. Life indeed takes on new meanings, as well as new meaning in the Gamblers Anonymous Program. To watch people recover, to see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish, to see a Fellowship grow up about you, to have a host of friends – this is…[Read more]
May 20 Reflection for the Day
Compulsive gambling is a lonely disease;although it may have seemed that we were part of the lights-and-action crowd,we were often tortured by loneliness.Even before the end of our gambling days – before the debts and the guilt showed us how unmanageable our lives had become – nearly all of us felt that we didn’t…[Read more]
May 19th Hazelden Thought for the Day
“Shame is the first feeling that strikes me whenever I, or someone I love, has a problem,” said one recovering woman.
Many of us were raised with the belief that having a problem is something to be ashamed of.
This belief can do many damaging things to us. It can stop us from identifying…[Read more]
Good morning. Its my first day here. I am not new to recovery groups, but I would always make it to Step 3 (sort of) and then stop. I rationalize to myself that gambling is just one other check mark of my list of addictions, but its not that simple. Somehow the reality of admitting that I am a compulsive gambler and my life is out of control…[Read more]
Glad you are reaching as many of us never do and end up insane in jail or dead.
Hope you will find some counseling and start attending GA. Took me many relapses
and a flirt with suicide before I realized that one can’t do this alone. Hope to see you
Thanks Keni. I have popped in a few times but no one was online.
May 19 Reflection for the Day
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us,”wrote Oliver Wendell Holmes.I was never able to look at what was within me until I came to Gamblers Anonymous and I heard my story told.Then I no longer had my “uniqueness” to hide behind.What was more,the person seemed a…[Read more]
May 18th Hazelden Thought for the Day
One should learn to enjoy the neighbor’s garden, however small; the roses straggling over the fence, the scent of lilacs drifting across the road.
—Henry Van Dyke
There are many gifts around us which we overlook when we’re busy dealing with our anxieties and obligations. We talk about burning out from o…[Read more]
MAY 18 Reflection for the Day
I considered myself a “loner” in the days when I was gambling. Although I was often with other people – saw them, heard them, touched them – most of my important dialogues were with my inner self. I was certain that nobody else would ever understand. Considering my former opinion of myself, it’s likely that I…[Read more]
May 17th Hazelden Thought for the Day
Sometimes, life and people seem to push and push. Because we are so used to pain, we may tell ourselves it doesn’t hurt. Because we are so used to people controlling and manipulating us, we may tell ourselves there is something wrong with us.
There’s nothing wrong with us. Life is pushing and…[Read more]
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