• jh2os posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks Tara

  • jh2os posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks Ken!

  • jh2os posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    Told my wife finally that I had run up some credit card bills gambling. That was this morning. Wondering what’s going to happen next

    • Hi Jh
      Hopefully what will happen next is that you find some help for yourself and hopefully your wife will support you.
      Suggest you find some counseling and a GA meeting for yourself and if your wife wants support see if there are
      Gam Anon meetings for the family and friends in your town. And if you are interested send me an email at…[Read more]

    • Hi jh2os, Seems like telling your spouse was a valuable step even though you don’t know what’s next. stay strong , what’s done is done. We do have one day at a time to make new choices and feel through this recovery. Sometimes it’s one minute at a time. Monday chat is tonight, here at gamtalk from 6-9 pst or 9-12 est. tara

  • jh2os posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks Barbarat. I agree with you and want to divulge any secrets. Working up the courage. Not gambling while doing that. And have a therapy appointment in 3 days as well. Thanks again for the response and support.

  • jh2os posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Absolutely understand – thank you for your thoughtful response. It’s not that I don’t want to tell her – but I am trying to reverse the situation and put myself in her place … hearing the news .. and reactions.

  • jh2os posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thx KCKC … I am committed to help – just not sure I want to lose more than just money in the process. And thanks for your comments as I work through this. Was tough to even post this true story 🙁

  • jh2os posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Shocking story of my rise and fall. Live in the US and have a casino 30-min away (new). Went in one night 2 yrs ago after an argument with wife. Won $30,000 playing black jack (after $3,000 buy in). Used the $30K sporadically until it was gone. Played BJ on and off, here and there for 2 years — winning, losing. Never really any debt. Played one…[Read more]

    • Commit to help! G.A., therapy and online groups; i.e. this one and/or another one. Do all three it works. Commit to it, don’t be half in and half out. You will never get ahead being a gambler even though you are winning huge amounts…as you already saw you gave it all back and then some as we all do. We gamble to try and change the way we…[Read more]

    • Thx KCKC … I am committed to help – just not sure I want to lose more than just money in the process. And thanks for your comments as I work through this. Was tough to even post this true story 🙁

    • You’re welcome. I steered clear of giving my opinion on if you should tell your wife or when you should tell her because that is your decision. Me being a woman, I would definetly want to know what is going on with my husband, the good and the bad. But I would have an easier time digesting that information if the debt was paid off and he told…[Read more]

      • Absolutely understand – thank you for your thoughtful response. It’s not that I don’t want to tell her – but I am trying to reverse the situation and put myself in her place … hearing the news .. and reactions.

    • Commit to help whether it is GA, Therapy or even in patient help. When you do commit to help you will find that honesty is the best policy and you will have to divulge your secrets to your wife. There is a possibility that while you think you are softening the blow to your wife by cleaning up the mess, you might make it worse by not bringing her…[Read more]

      • Thanks Barbarat. I agree with you and want to divulge any secrets. Working up the courage. Not gambling while doing that. And have a therapy appointment in 3 days as well. Thanks again for the response and support.

    • This was a great thread to read. And made me feel extremely hopeful. Marriages can be saved people can stop gambling and recover. I also like it when someone says stay sober. I feel like compulsive gambling is a much looked over disease.

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