• jbear2018 posted an update 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Taking it one day at a time. I’ve font 9 days now. I’m trying so hard. Don’t want to fall off the wagon again. I seem to have an issue at the 14 day mark so fingers crossed I can make it passed this time. Also the one time I did I didn’t go past 22 days. I just want to go past that and see how long I can go. I want to be able to say it’s been long…[Read more]

    • Hi Jbear! resources for help and barriers to gambling; can never have enough. 🙂 stay strong. odaat tara

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 6 months, 1 week ago

    Go right down to a bank and invest it. Into CDs or Bonds. Something you can’t touch for awhile. Maybe that money can be safe for awhile so that you can work on yourself. Your future self will thank you.

  • jbear2018 posted an update 6 months, 1 week ago

    I went 2 weeks without. Broke down and went today. Only spent $100. Then left. I fought the urge to gamble more. I want to not go at all. I pray to be stronger.

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    It has been strange or weird for me as I have considered myself an atheist for over 20 years. Only had an issue with gambling for about 3. I mean I’ve gambled but the compulsive came on in the last 3 years. The need to just keep putting it back in for the need to gamble regardless. It’s so weird. Before. It would be wohoo won a tiny bit. Cash out…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    This was a great thread to read. And made me feel extremely hopeful. Marriages can be saved people can stop gambling and recover. I also like it when someone says stay sober. I feel like compulsive gambling is a much looked over disease.

  • jbear2018 posted an update 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Haven’t been here in awhile. I completely went off the rails and went crazy with the “slots” didn’t feel guilty about just pissed at myself. I want to be free of it. I’ve recommitted myself. It’s been 1 week and 2 days now. I can do this. I know it. I want to be free. I’ve decided to work things out with the husband so this has to happen. I wan…[Read more]

    • Praying is not weird I pray everyday I pray to keep me from going to the casino the 1st step

      • It has been strange or weird for me as I have considered myself an atheist for over 20 years. Only had an issue with gambling for about 3. I mean I’ve gambled but the compulsive came on in the last 3 years. The need to just keep putting it back in for the need to gamble regardless. It’s so weird. Before. It would be wohoo won a tiny bit. Cash out…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 7 months, 1 week ago

    Did you get a sponsor from here? I need one. How did you do that?

    • Hi Jbear
      Most folks find a sponsor by attending GA meetings

    • If your room does not offer you a sponsor, walk up to someone in the room with a lot of recovery who impresses you and ask them to be your sponsor. Worst they can say is no. If that happens ask someone else until they say yes. The sponsor/sponsee relationship benefits both parties. Its considered an honor to sponsor somebody. Its a way of giving…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted an update 7 months, 1 week ago

    It’s been a rough couple of weeks. I’ve relapsed. I’d like a sponsor from here. How do I do that or what are the steps? I’m still not ready for GA meetings in person. But I need a sponsor for sure.

  • jbear2018 posted an update 7 months, 3 weeks ago

    I quit for a just a small window. And I do mean small window. I slid back into it. I want to shake this monkey off my back. This is hard. I guess I’m back to day one. I guess I need to get my bank to not allow me to be able to withdraw money out. Just do debit transactions so I can do my shopping and what not. Is that even possible to have the b…[Read more]

    • Don’t give up. Hang in there. I took a part time job to help pay off gambling debts. No checking account by choice. Cut up my ctedit card. I use prepaid ctedit or gift cards that are non reloadable to make purchases, and those types of cards do not work to get cash back from ATM or when making purchases. I have direct deposit, and bills set up as…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 8 months ago

    I told one person I could trust most. They were without judgement. I couldn’t do face to face meetings either. I suggest getting rid of your cc card and debit cards or any access to cash or if you gamble online block those sites. Go shopping instead. Go one day. Reward yourself with something else that you like. Same as day 2 and so forth. A…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 8 months ago

    That is awesome!!! Today I went to a museum with friends and my daughter. It took all day. So I’ve made great strides with getting out there and doing more stuff that isn’t gambling related. It helps that I’m getting divorced and not longer in a toxic relationship. They didn’t gamble but I was beyond lonely and bored. We were not compati…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted an update 8 months ago

    Today was a really hard day for me. I almost buckled. I was just so tempted. But I thought it through and decided against it. I am reading a good book instead. Yesterday marks 2 weeks free. It’s a struggle. But the longest I’ve gone in about 15 or more years. It was small at first but then turned into more and more and anything I won went rig…[Read more]

    • Two weeks free is an awesome start! My wife and I will take it 10 minutes at a time if we have to in order to stay out of that f’ing casino this weekend. We went to a holiday play last (Friday) night that cost us $25.00 per person. SO CHEAP compared to our weekend casino dumps! STAY STRONG

      • That is awesome!!! Today I went to a museum with friends and my daughter. It took all day. So I’ve made great strides with getting out there and doing more stuff that isn’t gambling related. It helps that I’m getting divorced and not longer in a toxic relationship. They didn’t gamble but I was beyond lonely and bored. We were not compati…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 8 months, 1 week ago

    You make some great points. Again I feel like it’s rubbed in our faces.

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 8 months, 1 week ago

    Good job tomv small steps. It’s hard in the beginning. I’m still in the beginning. I really feel like coming here helps so much. I’m really not comfortable going to GA meetings. And we literally have 3 in during the week in our area in 2 are way out of my way. And the 3rd is extremely inconvenient. So this is so helpful. I can pop on here whene…[Read more]

    • Ya I just get the urge sometimes and think I can win my money back and I think of all the money I have lost it just makes me more depressed

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 8 months, 1 week ago

    The state in which I am from we have lottery machines in every bar and restaurant and also any place that serves beer or wine. They are allowed to have 6. They are every where. You practically can’t go anywhere without them being there. This isn’t Nevada either. And we have casinos. Granted they aren’t every where but common enough. Howev…[Read more]

    • You know I am going to contact my state rep and tell him what happened. I take responsibility for it but the benefits cannot be that great. I think the casinos are enough. I have two of them within 20 miles. I had a problem and about a year ago I got on the exclusion list. I took responsibility for my actions. The casino is called parx,…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 8 months, 1 week ago

    One step at a time. Try to do something else instead Of gambling. Watch a movie. Go to the mall. Go have a soda and a slice of pie. Do you have a close friend to talk to? A family member? I don’t know how they do sponsors on here or what

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 8 months, 1 week ago

    Just an observation and some suggestions. Obviously you two believe you enjoy gambling together. So you enjoy each other’s company. Doing something as a couple. There is a ton of things you can find to do together as a couple. Take some cooking classes together. Some art classes together. Home improvement classes together. How to better your f…[Read more]

    • Hello JBear and thank you so much for your thoughtful reply. Here is how things play out for us. My wife and I ‘reward’ ourselves for a week’s hard work, housework, home projects etc with a trip to the casino. Within a very short time we are ‘in the zone’ and dumping hundreds of dollars that should be going to pay our credit card bills. We…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 8 months, 1 week ago

    Hang in there. One step at a time.

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 8 months, 1 week ago

    Hi. Small steps at first. Don’t beat yourself up for not being able to stop. Stop for a little bit at a time. Instead of going to gamble take $10 and go see a movie and only take $10 with you for the movie. Or pre buy the ticket. Fighting the urge is the hardest part I think. ThT is what I have been doing lately. I am happy I can each time. I…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 8 months, 1 week ago

    Part of my issue with gambling has always been boredom. Today I found something that I found very enjoyable. There are these wash your own dog businesses. Very nice and I have two very awesome dogs that it’s always been a pain to give baths to. Well I decided to take them in today one at a time. These places provide everything for you to bathe y…[Read more]

    • It’s boredom for me to, plus the slots are just to addicting for me. I am going to find a hobby and spend time with friends from now on.

    • It’s boredom for me to, plus the slots are just to addicting for me. I am going to find a hobby and spend time with friends from now on.

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