• jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 11 hours, 52 minutes ago

    Did you get a sponsor from here? I need one. How did you do that?

    • Hi Jbear
      Most folks find a sponsor by attending GA meetings

    • If your room does not offer you a sponsor, walk up to someone in the room with a lot of recovery who impresses you and ask them to be your sponsor. Worst they can say is no. If that happens ask someone else until they say yes. The sponsor/sponsee relationship benefits both parties. Its considered an honor to sponsor somebody. Its a way of giving…[Read more]

  • It’s been a rough couple of weeks. I’ve relapsed. I’d like a sponsor from here. How do I do that or what are the steps? I’m still not ready for GA meetings in person. But I need a sponsor for sure.

  • jbear2018 posted an update 1 week, 5 days ago

    I quit for a just a small window. And I do mean small window. I slid back into it. I want to shake this monkey off my back. This is hard. I guess I’m back to day one. I guess I need to get my bank to not allow me to be able to withdraw money out. Just do debit transactions so I can do my shopping and what not. Is that even possible to have the b…[Read more]

    • Don’t give up. Hang in there. I took a part time job to help pay off gambling debts. No checking account by choice. Cut up my ctedit card. I use prepaid ctedit or gift cards that are non reloadable to make purchases, and those types of cards do not work to get cash back from ATM or when making purchases. I have direct deposit, and bills set up as…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    I told one person I could trust most. They were without judgement. I couldn’t do face to face meetings either. I suggest getting rid of your cc card and debit cards or any access to cash or if you gamble online block those sites. Go shopping instead. Go one day. Reward yourself with something else that you like. Same as day 2 and so forth. A…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    That is awesome!!! Today I went to a museum with friends and my daughter. It took all day. So I’ve made great strides with getting out there and doing more stuff that isn’t gambling related. It helps that I’m getting divorced and not longer in a toxic relationship. They didn’t gamble but I was beyond lonely and bored. We were not compati…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted an update 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Today was a really hard day for me. I almost buckled. I was just so tempted. But I thought it through and decided against it. I am reading a good book instead. Yesterday marks 2 weeks free. It’s a struggle. But the longest I’ve gone in about 15 or more years. It was small at first but then turned into more and more and anything I won went rig…[Read more]

    • Two weeks free is an awesome start! My wife and I will take it 10 minutes at a time if we have to in order to stay out of that f’ing casino this weekend. We went to a holiday play last (Friday) night that cost us $25.00 per person. SO CHEAP compared to our weekend casino dumps! STAY STRONG

      • That is awesome!!! Today I went to a museum with friends and my daughter. It took all day. So I’ve made great strides with getting out there and doing more stuff that isn’t gambling related. It helps that I’m getting divorced and not longer in a toxic relationship. They didn’t gamble but I was beyond lonely and bored. We were not compati…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    You make some great points. Again I feel like it’s rubbed in our faces.

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    Good job tomv small steps. It’s hard in the beginning. I’m still in the beginning. I really feel like coming here helps so much. I’m really not comfortable going to GA meetings. And we literally have 3 in during the week in our area in 2 are way out of my way. And the 3rd is extremely inconvenient. So this is so helpful. I can pop on here whene…[Read more]

    • Ya I just get the urge sometimes and think I can win my money back and I think of all the money I have lost it just makes me more depressed

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 4 weeks ago

    The state in which I am from we have lottery machines in every bar and restaurant and also any place that serves beer or wine. They are allowed to have 6. They are every where. You practically can’t go anywhere without them being there. This isn’t Nevada either. And we have casinos. Granted they aren’t every where but common enough. Howev…[Read more]

    • tomv replied 4 weeks ago

      You know I am going to contact my state rep and tell him what happened. I take responsibility for it but the benefits cannot be that great. I think the casinos are enough. I have two of them within 20 miles. I had a problem and about a year ago I got on the exclusion list. I took responsibility for my actions. The casino is called parx,…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    One step at a time. Try to do something else instead Of gambling. Watch a movie. Go to the mall. Go have a soda and a slice of pie. Do you have a close friend to talk to? A family member? I don’t know how they do sponsors on here or what

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Just an observation and some suggestions. Obviously you two believe you enjoy gambling together. So you enjoy each other’s company. Doing something as a couple. There is a ton of things you can find to do together as a couple. Take some cooking classes together. Some art classes together. Home improvement classes together. How to better your f…[Read more]

    • Hello JBear and thank you so much for your thoughtful reply. Here is how things play out for us. My wife and I ‘reward’ ourselves for a week’s hard work, housework, home projects etc with a trip to the casino. Within a very short time we are ‘in the zone’ and dumping hundreds of dollars that should be going to pay our credit card bills. We…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Hang in there. One step at a time.

  • jbear2018 posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Hi. Small steps at first. Don’t beat yourself up for not being able to stop. Stop for a little bit at a time. Instead of going to gamble take $10 and go see a movie and only take $10 with you for the movie. Or pre buy the ticket. Fighting the urge is the hardest part I think. ThT is what I have been doing lately. I am happy I can each time. I…[Read more]

  • jbear2018 posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month ago

    Part of my issue with gambling has always been boredom. Today I found something that I found very enjoyable. There are these wash your own dog businesses. Very nice and I have two very awesome dogs that it’s always been a pain to give baths to. Well I decided to take them in today one at a time. These places provide everything for you to bathe y…[Read more]

    • tomv replied 4 weeks ago

      It’s boredom for me to, plus the slots are just to addicting for me. I am going to find a hobby and spend time with friends from now on.

    • tomv replied 4 weeks ago

      It’s boredom for me to, plus the slots are just to addicting for me. I am going to find a hobby and spend time with friends from now on.

  • jbear2018 posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 month ago

    The hardest time for me is when I’m lonely or stressed. And sometimes I’m lonely when I am with people. Honestly reading these posts help me. I don’t feel like I’m the only one out there. I feel like there are people out there who understand and don’t judge.

    • Hi there. I have the same problem. As soon as I get stressed I go to gambling even though I know it will usually end with more stress.

    • kenl replied 1 month ago

      If I may suggest try finding a GA meeting.
      Pretty sure you will find welcomed and understood.
      And you will be given a phone list of folks from the
      meeting that you can call when you are lonely or
      struggling. And if you are interested I send out two
      daily recovery messages that I think help me to start
      my focused on recovery. If you would like to…[Read more]

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