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Every bad habit features things
we do to fall before a fall. A drinker might put on a movie that
glorifies partying. A gambler may call a buddy who is obsessed with
talking about gambling. A person struggling with drugs might just not
fight against constant thoughts of how much they need to find some
drugs. A person struggling with food may allow constant thoughts of
how great certain foods are. A porn addict may watch certain things
that lead them to their habit forcefully.

Falling before a fall stages:

Emotional – You begin trying
less. Less meetings, less studying quitting sites. Consider yelling
at yourself when you enter this stage.

Mental falling – You want to
fall more than anything, but you don’t want the destruction. Give
yourself a wake up talk when you enter this stage. You need massive
action to turn things around now.

Consider writing down 3 things
that cause you to fall before a fall. Next, write down what you
should be doing when you get into those things. This may take some
research. Consider jotting down 7 alternatives of what you should do
instead of these things.

The #1 key to avoid falling
before a fall is to take action early in the process. The #2
key is to continue to fight fiercely when you are no longer excited
about quitting. The #3 key is to work daily on “New habits.” I
have formed the new habit of turning from thoughts of ______. When
temptation starts I now have the habit of thinking new thoughts. I
plan to write more about how to do this, this week. What new habits
will you work on daily?

Finally, fighting against
falling before a fall starts to increase your joy. Use this as
motivation to always keep fighting.

Believe that someday you will
have joy. It does not always happen fast, but over time you will see
it beginning to happen.