• kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 1 day ago

    JUNE 11 Reflection for the Day

    Guilt is a cunning weapon in the armory of the compulsive gambler. We can use the weapon against ourselves in many subtle ways; it can be deftly wielded, for example, in an attempt to convince us that the Gamblers Anonymous Program doesn’t really work. I have to protect myself constantly against guilt and…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 2 days ago

    June 10th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    Responsibility

    Self care means taking responsibility for ourselves. Taking responsibility for ourselves includes assuming our true responsibilities to others.

    Sometimes, when we begin recovery, we’re worn down from feeling responsible for so many other people. Learning that we need only take…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 2 days ago

    JUNE 10 Reflection for the Day

    When I least expect it, my keen addictive mind will try to divert me back toward my old ideas and old ways. My mind is expert, in fact, at planting and nourishing negative feelings within me – feelings such as envy, fear, anxiety, or guilt. The minute I spot any of these poisonous feelings rising up, I have to deal…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 3 days ago

    June 9th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    Don’t panic!

    If a swimmer was crossing a great lake, then suddenly focused too heavily on the distance remaining, he might start to flounder and go under – not because he couldn’t swim, but because he became overwhelmed by panic.

    Panic, not the task, is the enemy.

    Many of us have moments when we feel…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 3 days ago

    JUNE 9 Reflection for the Day

    Some of us, new in Gamblers Anonymous, couldn’t resist telling anyone who would listen just how “terrible” we were. Just as we often exaggerated our modest accomplishments by pride, so we exaggerated our defects through guilt. Racing about and “confessing all,” we somehow considered the widespread exposure of our…[Read more]

  • time4happy posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 4 days ago

    Has anyone found that they can stop going to the casino without attending GA? I attended a meeting a few months ago and it felt so wrong for some reason. Hard to explain but I felt so uncomfortable and out of place. Is that a normal reaction? Can I do this successfully on my own?

    • Most can not recover from compulsive gambling on their own. But there are other resources to piece together for yourself besides the full on GA meetings. It could take even more ‘work’ to find the connections but it’s worth the time and effort. I have found that I’ve got to ‘work’ this recovery. Self exclusions from casinos with the ‘lifetime…[Read more]

      • There are other recovery groups that do not have a specific addiction focus such as smart recovery/ life ring/ celebrate recovery/ dharma punks/ etc. Youtube videos, workbooks, counseling , online sites like this, other 12 step programs such as Codependents anon. ( both online and in person), problem gamblers hotlines…

        • My experience has been that it is very hard to recover on our own.
          Before you write off GA completely try some more meetings and try to be open minded. In my room we offer new members the GA refund policy’.We ask the new member to give us their pain and misery attend meetings and not gamble for 90 days. And if after the 90 days they aren’t happier…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 4 days ago

    JUNE 8 Reflection for the Day

    A friend in Gamblers Anonymous taught me to look at excessive guilt in a entirely new way, suggesting that guilt was nothing but a sort of reverse pride. A decent regret for what has happened is fine, he said. But guilt, no. I’ve since learned that condemning ourselves for mistakes we’ve made is just as bad as…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 5 days ago

    June 7th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    The human brain forgets ninety percent of what goes on.
    —Jan Milner

    There were two women who shared a house and raised their daughters, two toddlers, together. Then one of the women got transferred to another city and moved with her daughter.

    Ten years later, they had a reunion. The mothers asked their k…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 5 days ago

    JUNE 7 Reflection for the Day

    Few of us are entirely free from a sense of guilt. We may feel guilty for things we’ve said or done – of things we’ve left unsaid or undone. We’re so used to that gnawing guilt that even when we’re accused falsely we still feel guilty. When I’m troubled by naggings of guilt, obviously I can’t put into my day all the…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 6 days ago

    June 6th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    Words and magic were, in the beginning, one and the same thing, and even today words retain much of their magical power.
    —Sigmund Freud

    We shape our experiences with the words we use to describe them. Word images create expectations and we naturally move toward them. When a man says, “I can’t!” he is c…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 1 week, 6 days ago

    JUNE 6 Reflection for the Day

    Adjusting myself to things as they are, and being able to love without trying to interfere with or control anyone else, however close to me – that’s one of the important things I search for and can find in Gamblers Anonymous. The learning is sometimes painful; however, the reward is life itself – full and…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 weeks ago

    June 5th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    Where there is no strife there is decay: “The mixture which is not shaken decomposes.”
    —Heraclitus

    Transitions and changes are often painful, sometimes frightening. Often the most troubled lives are those most unyielding to change. When we become so committed to stability that we cannot flow with the n…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 weeks ago

    JUNE 5 Reflection for the Day

    The Gamblers Anonymous Program teaches me that not too many people can truthfully assert that they love everybody. Most of us have to admit that we’ve loved only a few, and that we’ve been quite indifferent to many. As for the rest, well, we’ve really disliked or hated them. We in Gamblers Anonymous find we need…[Read more]

  • tara posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Can we/I continue to reinforce negative associations that we have with compulsive gambling addiction? Each time thoughts of gambling come to mind spend time fully remembering the negatives; the visuals (darkness/ seeing other cg.s in action etc) smells ( smoke, staleness, stench, ) , feeling ( hopelessness,shame, guilt, desperation, anxiety,…[Read more]

    • Tara, I totally agree with this. I recently changed jobs and cashed out my retirement and now all that money is gone thanks to that horrible place. I need to focus on all the money that place has taken from me instead of thinking I can win it all back.

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    June 4th Hazelden Thought for the Day

    Trusting God

    A married couple, friends of mine, decided to make some changes in their living situation. They had always lived in the city, and now they decided they wanted to live in the country, on a lake.

    They found a small lake home. It wasn’t the house of their dreams, but when they sold their city…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    JUNE 4 Reflection for the Day

    Acceptance is a key. Too often I was unable to accept who I was, and therefore it was impossible to accept others. Before coming to Gamblers Anonymous, I hid from the truth because I was afraid of it. Now with the help of my GA brothers and sisters, I can walk through it. Today I actually find comfort in knowing the…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    June 3rd Hazelden Thought for the Day

    Almost anything you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it.
    —Mohandas Gandhi

    Looking back at yesterday, looking at today, what sense do we have of progress in our growth? Probably nothing very significant. Sometimes it is amazing how little a person can accomplish in a day’s e…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    June 3 Reflection for the Day
    “The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves,and not to twist them to fit our own image,”wrote Thomas Merton.”Otherwise,we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”As I place my self-destructive addiction with a healthy dependence on the Gamblers Anonymous Program and its Twelve…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    June 2nd Hazelden Thought for the Day

    I have come to realize that all my trouble with living has come from fear and smallness within me.
    —Angela L. Wozniak

    We create problems for ourselves because we think we need to be more than we are. We fear that we are inadequate to the task before us, fear that another woman is more attractive, fear t…[Read more]

  • kenl posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    June 2 Reflection for the Day

    In the process of learning to love myself and, in turn,to love others freely with no strings attached,I’ve begun to understand these words of St. Augustine:”Love slays what we have been,that we may be what we were not.”More and more,I feel the enormous power of such love in the Gamblers Anonymous Program;for me,the…[Read more]

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