When I told my husband, I decided to write a letter to him. This way I was able to say everything I was feeling and what I needed him to do to help me, without getting into a discussion and not being able to say all that I felt he needed to know. I told him I would be ready to talk face to face after he took some time to process things and was ready to talk. The key for me was to spell out exactly what I needed from him. It did take him some time to process but when he was finally ready to talk our conversation was exactly what I needed. I think sometimes we know what we need support wise from someone and often assume the other person will know how to react and what actions to take but really that person isn’t really sure.
Great suggestion Browniegrl.
When we been with a partner for many years we expect them to be a mind reader and when they don’t do or act how we want or think they should we get upset and hurt.
When I told my husband, I decided to write a letter to him. This way I was able to say everything I was feeling and what I needed him to do to help me, without getting into a discussion and not being able to say all that I felt he needed to know. I told him I would be ready to talk face to face after he took some time to process things and was ready to talk. The key for me was to spell out exactly what I needed from him. It did take him some time to process but when he was finally ready to talk our conversation was exactly what I needed. I think sometimes we know what we need support wise from someone and often assume the other person will know how to react and what actions to take but really that person isn’t really sure.
Great suggestion Browniegrl.
When we been with a partner for many years we expect them to be a mind reader and when they don’t do or act how we want or think they should we get upset and hurt.