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eabadow 22
Everything I say is just my opinion and doesn’t make it right.
In all my years of living. The saying of two wrongs don’t make a right.
You for your own reasons started to gamble. It takes a person by surprise when they realize what was fun is not so fun anymore. It’s a roaring addiction. And it’s difficult to keep the lions fed.
And a person is then forced to live with guilt, shame, struggle to keep up financially. It’s just such a shame.
Then as yourself pulling yourself out of the addiction no small feat. Six weeks for you congratulations that’s wonderful. I’m just over 40 days and one slip in 4 months. We should both be very proud we’ve found the strength to do what our hearts truly need we should do.
Speaking of your husband I don’t really know him or yourself.
I think in a good relationship as long as it’s nothing crazy serious like physical or emotional abuse. A couple should be able to talk a sensitive situation through(best way I can word this) I think that you were big enough to own up about what you were going through. I think your husband is. using this situation to experience. possibly something he wants to experience and is holding you accountable for how he feels. He shouldn’t be doing that he should be straight up with you. I could be wrong It doesn’t mean that things won’t change and possibly your relationship could go back to what it was or better than it ever was. Time will tell. You told him how you feel. Let that sit there he is aware. You don’t deserve to be punished. Anybody anywhere any time can have a problem.
My suggestion and you may be doing this already. Do the best things you can for you and your children. Go visiting to the library, for a swim a walk in the park. Do things that enrich your life.
It’s up to your husband to do the same.
Don’t stop living waiting on him to find himself. You find you. Hugs I’m hoping the best for your family.

eabadow22…. Serenity’s comment is very insightful. A couple of things stand out to me… 1. Your feelings of guilt and that you are responsible for everything that’s happened and your husband is the ‘victim’.. My opinion ‘while you are responsible for gambling you are a victim too. Gambling is an addiction and you need support . 2. One hope that our spouse with be one of the support factors… and help you get further support. 3. I don’t know what your marriage vows were but it seems universal that we promise to love one another in sickness and in health… my opinion .. he’s not recognizing how opposite he is reacting. 3. He’s not think of how his moving out has affected his children or you. So in my humble opinion try hard to forgive yourself and realize the blame is not all yours’. If you can somehow communicate with your husband that it’s not condemnation you need from him, it’s his help and his love. He needs to decide what’s best for his family… because him moving out is ‘not’…. Anyway just a few thoughts from me… take care Lindy

Well said Serenity and Lindy