• IA posted an update in the group Group logo of CommunityCommunity 3 years, 2 months ago

    I think what really drives me to return to it is the guilt and pressure that comes from the people I owe. I feel like there’s no way I can achieve lasting progress unless I atleast pay off a portion of my debts. I’m really interested in knowing how anyone has dealt with this in the past. Like having people actually making threats to have you arrested or hurt you if you don’t pay up… this is what pushes me to try and gamble every little money I get in attempt to pay off a portion of my debts. I’m so frustrated and downcast

    • I know that feeling very well. I won money and paid off debts but I went again and found myself deeper in debt than before. This is gambling in the raw. It will NEVER get better if you go back. I know you would like to hear” go ahead pay off debts and then stop”. But that would be a lie. It is difficult when you are threatens. Maybe you can have a restraining order. I pray for. Please pray and have people pray for. Under no circumstances go back. It is a trap and always will be. Lots of power to you and no you are not alone 💕

    • What really drives you is the fact that you have trained your brain to accept gambling as an intgeral part of you routine. You can change this but it does take time, knowledge and help. I wrote a post on GAMBLING ADDICTION, please scroll down and read it, it helps you to understand what is going on in your mind and helps you to deal with it. Read other people’s posts here, you are not the first to be in this position and sadly you will not be the last but you can make that change but you have to want to do it. My post is just the tip of the iceberg, there is a wealth of information on the net just waiting to be read and it is free. I found research very interesting and it filled the void that not gambling left.

      • If you read my post and think it helped please press LIKE, I don’t want to keep referring people to this post if it is not helping, although I think it will. It helped me.

    • I agree and don’t think gambling is the answer. First things first, and that begins with your recovery. Also, paying debts slowly may help. As Ken L says, find out what you can comfortably live on for food and shelter, etc. Then take what you have extra to pay the debts. Also, I turned my finances over to my husband. It helps me to not look at the account and have bills automatically come out. I used to think I could gamble my way out of debts, but it never worked.