August 12, 2017 at 9:49 am #5139
I don’t know your boyfriend so hard for me to say whether he will gamble again.
Each person is different but when you get a second have a look at these links.
Hope they help and I wish you both the best.
Ken L Grateful recovering Compulsive Gambler
“Also here are a few facts from the Yellow Book that is read at most if not all weekly GA meetings
What is compulsive gambling?
The explanation that seems most acceptable to Gamblers Anonymous members is that compulsive gambling is an illness, progressive in its nature, which can never be cured, but can be arrested.
Before coming to Gamblers Anonymous, many compulsive gamblers thought of themselves as morally weak, or at times just plain ‘no good’. The Gamblers Anonymous concept is that compulsive gamblers are really very sick people who can recover if they will follow to the best of their ability a simple program that has proved successful for thousands of other men and women with a gambling or compulsive gambling problem.”
” Can a person recover by himself/herself by reading Gamblers Anonymous literature or medical books on the problem of compulsive gambling?Sometimes, but not usually. The Gamblers Anonymous program works best for the individual when it is recognized and accepted as a program involving other people. Working with other compulsive gamblers in a Gamblers Anonymous group the individual seems to find the necessary understanding and support. They are able to talk of their past experiences and present problems in an area where they are comfortable and accepted. Instead of feeling alone and misunderstood, they feel needed and accepted.”
August 11, 2017 at 1:57 pm #5134
sorry, starting reading from the bottom, and go up
August 11, 2017 at 1:55 pm #5133
9 Did you ever gamble until your last dollar was gone?
10 Did you evDid you often gambler borrow to finance your gambling?
11 Have you ever sold anything to finance gambling?
12 Were you reluctant to use “gambling money” for normal expenditures?
13 Did gambling make you careless of the welfare of yourself or your family?
14 Did you ever gamble longer than you had planned?
15 Have you ever gambled to escape worry, trouble, boredom or loneliness?
16 Have you ever committed, or considered committing, an illegal act to finance gambling?
17 Did gambling cause you to have difficulty in sleeping?
18 Do arguments, disappointments or frustrations create within you an urge to gamble?
19 Did you ever have an urge to celebrate any good fortune by a few hours of gambling?
20 Have you ever considered self-destruction or suicide as a result of your gambling?
August 11, 2017 at 1:51 pm #5132
by the way, I’m salvo a compulsive gambler, in recovery, here are 20 questions for your husband to answer, Most compulsive gamblers will answer yes to at least seven of these questions.
1 Did you ever lose time from work or school due to gambling?
2 Has gambling ever made your home life unhappy?
3 Did gambling affect your reputation?
4 Have you ever felt remorse after gambling?
5 Did you ever gamble to get money with which to pay debts or otherwise solve financial difficulties?
6 Did gambling cause a decrease in your ambition or efficiency?
7 After losing did you feel you must return as soon as possible and win back your losses?
8 After a win did you have a strong urge to return and win more? …….contiued
August 11, 2017 at 1:45 pm #5131
hi lainey27, here’s something about “compulsive gambling”
What is compulsive gambling?
Compulsive gambling is an illness, progressive in its nature, which can never be cured, but can be arrested.
Before coming to Gamblers Anonymous, many compulsive gamblers thought of themselves as morally weak, or at times just plain ‘no good’. The Gamblers Anonymous concept is that compulsive gamblers are really very sick people who can recover if they will follow to the best of their ability a simple program that has proved successful for thousands of other men and women with a gambling or compulsive gambling problem.
August 11, 2017 at 1:22 pm #5130
The man I have been dating is a gambler. He has been for most of his adult life. His mother is a gambler as well. I found out a year after we had been dating. I stayed. He entered into a great program at the hospital but stopped going after 8 weeks. He claims he would never gamble again. The thing is, he still doesn’t have money. His credit cards remain maxed out and recently, all my jewellery went missing. I don’t understand this addiction but I am trying. Is it possible to simply be cured after 8 weeks or do I have my head in the sand?
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